Something To Think About

A friend of mine sent me this, and though I am not American, I have great respect for Canada's neighbours to the south and wanted to share this with you. It made me want to stand up and salute you all.

We have enjoyed the redneck jokes for years. It's time to take a reflectivelook at the core beliefs of a culture that values home, family, country and God. If I had to stand before a dozen terrorists who threaten my life, I'dchoose a half dozen or so rednecks to back me up.Tire irons, squirrel guns and grit -- that's what rednecks are made of. Ihope I am one of those. If you feel the same, pass this on to your redneckfriends. Ya`ll know who ya are...You might be a redneck if. . .It never occurred to you to be offended by the phrase, "One nation, underGod. . " You've never protested about seeing the 10 Commandments posted in public places.You still say "Christmas" instead of "Winter Festival."You bow your head when someone prays.You stand and place your hand over your heart when they play the NationalAnthem.You treat Viet Nam vets with great respect, and always have.You've never burned an American flag.You know what you believe and you aren't! afraid to say so, no matter who is listening.You respect your elders and expect your kids to do the same.You'd give your last dollar to a friend.If you got this email from me it is because I believe that you, like me have just enough Red Neck in you to have the same beliefs as those talked about in this email.>> God Bless the USA.

Just a little something for you all to think about while I'm away. My hat is off to you all and may God keep those of you at home, and those of your loved ones overseas, safe. You will all be in my prayers.

"Now For Something Completely Different"

Hello Friends,
I am publishing this entry to wean you all away from the 'Darkside' entry as a place to play in the coming weeks while I am gone. It will be my last blog entry for awhile - as apparently I am 'on the run' lol and will only have intermittent internet hookup.
I will be checking in here from time to time to see how you all are doing and to leave some bon mots of my own to let YOU know how I'm doing.
So have fun ladies and gents and don't let the fire ants bite! lol Can someone tell me if we have fire ants in Canada? I've never seen any, but hey - I DON'T KNOW EVERYTHING! LOLOL...
Keep hugging each other!

For Members of the 'Dark Side"

As avid internet users yourselves, you understand the connections made on forums on the net. You should, you have enough of your own forums now! lol
The forum we crossed paths on, is, I repeat is, no longer of any interest to me. But I will be watching what is said and done on it as I don't trust any of you an inch.
Yes,I wanted the abusers gone and your nasty mylotbites shut down. I made no pretense about that and I had very good reasons, which, if any of you had an ounce of integrity, would realize the value of. You have done the same to others, why should I be different in my wanting the same thing. Yes I said I wanted you all wiped from the mylot database - you are all a negative presence on that site as more and more users are coming to realize that ON THEIR OWN without me having any influence over them.
The only reason you object so strongly to MY efforts, is because it was directed at you.
But to take private emails and turn them into a federal case is not only a useless operation, but smacks of "I'm taking my toys and going home!". After the mlpd went on strike, I accepted certain friendships and meant them. I realize now, how false they were on YOUR side. I stayed away from you all and concentrated on my own life and new friends on site. My material had been sent to admin and I was content to leave it in their hands. But YOU all just couldn't leave it alone and worked to get me banned with unprovable allegations used against me in a criminal manner. And you targeted my friends.
With the number of sites you now have to 'vent' and 'plot' on, it is ridiculous of you to say I am the one carrying on the 'fight'. I have this blog. That's it. If I see a posting elsewhere about this kind of behaviour on mylot, I comment. But I do not instigate it. YOU are the ones who can't let it go. I would give my eyeteeth to have you all out of my life for good.

So here's the deal. Grow up, get over it and just stop the vendetta YOU all are carrying on. Agree to disagree with me and put an end to it. Frankly I'm so sick and tired of the lot of you that I refuse to expend anymore energy. My life is about to take a drastic change and I don't need all this in my face everytime I open my laptop.

I want to be able to enjoy my internet experience and I'm sure you all do to. So stop poking this old dog and I'll stop replying or referring to you unless I am forced to defend myself. Don't put me in a defensive position and you'll never hear from me again. Can you do that? Or are the plans at least one of you have for me to far forward to call a halt? For your sakes, I hope not.

You want peace SK? I am prepared to give it you as long as you keep your friends in line.
You have my word, whether you put any stock in it or not - you won't know until you try.

SO: PEACE!

My Identity Stolen and Now It's a Legal Matter

Reader,
The following email is just one of many that I have been receiving since my banning from mylot.com. I really don't care about the sick little games you want to play, but NOW it has gone over the line. One of the people in this email lives in the same town I do and it will not be long before 'word gets around' about this as you have used my REAL name - yes, believe it or not, in this small town I am the ONLY one with that name! People aren't stupid. They will put it together and though my husband and I are leaving here within days - MY CHILDREN ARE NOT! One young lady in this email is known to my son! My husband has lived in this town for over 20 years - this is going to damage his good reputation, because after all - people love to gossip! So now, you are not only guilty of the most anti-social behaviour - you have crossed the line into defamation and the police here have been brought up to date on the situation.
SO - I am going to give the person one chance and one chance only to do the right thing. Post the password used to sign me up to Match.com on this blog before Thursday of next week - June 28th/07 under anonymous, so that I can access this match.com account and delete my profile. This is now a crime - a legal one and frankly a moral one as you have opened the door to my CHILDREN having to defend me against the results of your behaviour. Below is the email to prove I am not the liar you have tried to make me out to be. My copy and paste only allowed the following to be posted ungarbled. And I'm glad of that as it hides the pictures and identities of the people included which I would not have allowed anyway. I say again that what you do and say about me is of no real consequence to me - but to have it spill over into the lives of my children and affect my husband's good reputation - it's time to STOP and get on with YOUR life. You wouldn't stand for this in yours - show that you truly do have a side that is NOT abusive and do the right thing here.

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You have until Thurs., next week to anonymously post on this blog, the password you used to sign me up to this site. This is not a joke. This is not a 'poke'. This is real, and this is serious, for you as well as me. I'm giving you an out, which is more than you would give me - so take advantage of the opportunity while you can. If you do, I will consider this matter closed and never refer to it again.


READERS: Update on above. This morning I received this in my email: June 23/07

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Dear: iamannmarie

Thank you for contacting us about your Username and/or Password. We have located your information and included it below. Please save this email (in a well-hidden place) as your own friendly reminder should you forget again.

Username: iamannmarie
Password: cuntwhore

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My only conclusion is that one of my own many emails asking for the password finally got through although I find the timing rather convenient! The account has now been cancelled.

I post this here because anyone who knows me - friends and enemies alike know that those two words are the ones I object to most strongly and I would NEVER use them in reference to myself or anyone else. These are the same words separate and together that were often left as tags on my discussions and those those of others.

So - to the person responsible, you are off the hook here. However, the words in the password have given you away - you are not off the hook for defamation should there be any further fallout from this that puts my children in a position to need to defend my honour and that of my husbands. So I would suggest you think very carefully before you do anything like this again or use these words to tag any further discussions on any other sites.

To my friends - God certainly has strange timing doesn't He? lol

Friends and Enemies LOL

My blog is titled, Internet Cancers and Other Topics. This is one of those OTHER Topics!
(gotcha! lol)
As most of you know, I am moving at the end of June out of the lovely province of Alberta,
to Saskatchewan. My life, however, this past year especially, has not been going smoothly.
I'm sure a lot of you can relate! lol
This morning I learned that the house we have an accepted offer on in Saskatchewan, does not
have a clear title and it could be months before the matter is cleared up. This means that as of
June 29th my husband and I are homeless - money in the bank from the house we've sold - but homeless! lol It is a good thing that we recently purchased a new 28' RV, so we will not be without a comfortable bed while we search for a new place to put it in. This means that I will
not have access to, or the same time on, the computer.
Doing the happy dance yet?lol
Here in Canada however, we ARE civilized and most campsites have internet hookup, so though
I won't have time to answer all my emails in a timely manner, I will be checking in on my blog
often and keeping you all up to date.
So for those of you who are my friends - stop by often to say hello and share your news.
For those of you who are not - but can't help yourselves - try and track me now! lol

One More TIme WIth Feeling

Ok folks, here's the scoop AGAIN. I started this blog to expose abuse on the internet in whatever form I found it. I started with the kind of abuse I know the best - what happens on Mylot. Anyone who has been a member of that site for more than a month has seen it, been a victim of it or party to it. It's disgraceful and I make NO apologies for feeling the way I do about it or the things I have posted about it. Not a member reader? Check it out and see for yourself, especially threads by the people whose names are posted in my first blog entry. Then come back and tell me that I'm childish and full of it to feel the way I do.



Because the abuse on mylot continues unabated, and because some of that abuse is directed at me, of course I'm going to write about it - if only to counteract the lies, accusations, and insinuations being posted there. It's called - ready for it? - keeping the record straight, defending oneself, defending one's friends.



Ooops - sorry - that's not allowed, as people are told in various nasty ways over and over. It is ok for SOME people to demand their rights to freedom of speech, defense of their friends, defense of themselves - but make no mistake folks - if you are not 'one of them' - you DO NOT have the same rights. What a crazy world we live in eh?



Frankly I am sick to death of being told by people with the mind set, of what in my day, was called 'low life thinking', that I don't have any rights at all. And fyi - my gran defined low life thinking as people who found their personal power in the supression of others, be they right or wrong. Actually, it was my gran who first likened the kind of abuse that goes on in public forums as a kind of cancer. Mind you she was talking about the kind of public forums that were truly public - political debates, speeches, etc. Well gran - there is a new kind of public forum now but you're still on the money in your assessment!



It is the nature of man to judge, to assume, to speak before he/she thinks, to NEED to twist in order to be heard, accepted, be effective. Look around you - look at advertising!, look at the way some of your neighbours behave, look at the relationship you have with your mother-in-law! lol You get my drift? People use words to manipulate all the time - just ask the media!

It's a fact of life. Everyone want to be right, everyone wants to be accepted, everyone wants - no needs, to have a sense of personal power and control over their lives. It is the exercising of that control and power over others that is NOT acceptable or there would be no wars of ANY kind.



This need - this instinct to 'come out on top' is dangerous and it is incumbent upon all of us to practice restraint in our words, to remain civil and courteous when making a point that reflects a different point of view or opinion in answer to someone else. Sadly, humanity is losing the art of conversation and restraint means - what again? The result is conversation full of foul language, and insulting comments. Just because our tempers flare at something we read or hear, does it necessarly follow that we MUST respond with ugly words? Of course not. But people do - they go right off the deep end and reply without thinking. Later, some regret it and make amends. Too many today do not. And the trend to say whatever, whenever, damn the torpedos, continues to spread and grow - there's your cancer at work gran!



Hand in hand with what my Dad called "Niagara Mouth" is what is contained within the torrent of words. The insistence that the person has rights you MUST give them. Just because we live in a democracy where 'free speech' is such a buzz word because it appears on an old piece of paper somewhere, does NOT mean that free speech means it's ok to abuse, libel, falsely accuse or that it's socially acceptable. Everyone is entitled to their opinion and the freedom to express it. That is what free speech means. Nowhere in any 'old document' setting out that right does it say free speech includes foul languagge, libel, abuse, false accusations. The last I checked, there were laws against ALL of those things - even the use of foul language in some places! lol

So to those of you who stand behind the right to freedom of speech. Check the 'old documents'.
Nowhere does it say that that free speech includes the use of abusive language, libel, slander, false accusations etc. To indulge in this kind of speech speaks to the intelligent of 'low life thinking', it speaks to the vulnerable of hate and a lack of tolerance. It speaks to society in general of the cancer that is eating away at it's morals and values and becoming reflective more and more in the behaviour of people in general. It causes wars of all kinds, and that is not, and never will be socially acceptable.

So before you make demands for personal rights - before you 'bash' others for exercising their own personal rights - think about the cancer you don't need to be a part of, that is destroying everyone's right to freedom of speech, liberty and the pursuit of happiness. Open your minds and clear out the garbage that makes you jump on someone simply because you don't agree with them, using words intended only to inflame, to hurt, to demean. Don't assume that you know all about a person from the expression of a few words. Don't assume you know the whole story either. Stories are as complex as the people involved. So until you have ALL the facts, no one has the right to rush to judgement and inflict 'punishment'.

Voice your opinion all you want - but do it with class, with consideration and with logic. Help stamp out the cancer of self-serving demands for rights not afforded to others without ugly backlashes. In other words - CLEAN UP YOUR ACT. If you don't, you will never really find your way out of the company of like minded people and before you know it - 'low life thinking' becomes a habit of self-expression and your personal values and standards suffer in EVERY aspect of your life - not just on the net. Sheesh - whatever happened to simple kindness and understanding? Whatever happened to tolerance and faith and freedoms for all? -- Don't tell me! They got cancer!

Well here on the net people, you have an opportunity to reach literally thousands of people in one go. Is sending a message of abuse the message you really want to send? Is behaving like a schoolyard bully the image of yourself and your country that you really want the world to see?
You have the opportunity to show the finer side of human nature. To bring diverse cultures together in a spirit of understanding. You have the opportunity to change the world and you are wasting it. Some physical cancers are not curable. Internet cancers are. Why not "make your mark' curing the ones you can instead of spreading them? The choice is yours. Make it wisely.

NOTE: This post - are you listening - IS NOT ALL ABOUT MYLOT! The 'you' is collective and applies in a general/all embracing application for whomever reads this, not just mylot users.
Is that clear enough? So no more comments or discussions bashing me for STATING MY OPINION! Thank you.

The Cancer Has Gone South

This post is not one I wanted to write. But the necessity for it has been thrust upon me by yet another discussion, which not only contains totally false allegations, but also allegations about totally innocent users, whose only crime is to be my friend. I will address these allegations, point by point. And then on behalf of myself and my friends, I DEMAND an apology on this blog. If it is not given - then you, reader must decide for yourself who is the coward here.
The discussion begins with an allusion to a war of attrition. It goes on to talk about how the poster, back in November hunted cheaters on site and reported them. Then the poster talks about how he recruited others users to hunt cheaters. The poster is talking about the mlpd here. The poster then goes on to say that "some of those cheaters were overzealous and found themselves booted" (from the site? - that is not made clear). Other cheaters were "misunderstood and made some people unhappy." Well that is certainly an understatement. The mlpd members who 'made some people unhappy', did so because they were openly abusive to innocent members on threads where the mlpd had nothing but vitriol to contribute. I was one of the users at the time who openly challenged their abuse. The poster then goes on to say that the resistance to cheater hunting made it impossible to hunt cheaters any more. This is such a joke. Neither I nor anyone else had any kind of problem with people - whomever they were - hunting cheaters. What we had a problem with, was the verbal abuse and flaming that the mlpd were doing to innocent users. When one of the mlpd posted a comment like "...well if you kept your legs closed you c*nt, you wouldn't have so many kids...", of course I had something to say. Wouldn't you? This is open and ugly abuse and several members of the mlpd were very good at using this kind of language and making this kind of comment. I found it disgusting and said so. They hid behind their right to 'free speech'! Reporting this kind of abuse got comments deleted from threads, but did NOTHING to stop the abuse. It did nothing to have the most vile members of the mlpd banned by admin for guideline violations. And that's when I decided to approach the problem another way. Other friends on site at the time who had been on the receiving end of the mlpd members abuse, agreed that this abuse on site had to stop and began sending me pages from mylotbittes, a site I knew nothing about until I started getting pages of the mlpd members convos from it. I gathered them together and forwarded them to admin. Sadly - the only thing that changed was that mlpd went on strike and I left the site for awhile. The poster now says that I continued my war against them until I was banned. This is not true. After a month or so of being away I returned to the site and stayed away from the lot of them. The worst foul mouth had lost his ability to post and things had quieted down on site. The mylot wars were over and the material submitted to admin. For me - that was the end of it. Unbeknownst to me, however, a former friend had betrayed our relationship and now it was the members of the mlpd who were 'working behind the scenes' to get me banned. The poster says that my friends were so upset with me (?, names please!) about what I said about the mlpd that that is why 'they' were no longer my friends. Now that doesn't make sense. Unless these 'friends' were advocates of the kind of abuse that went on on site - why would they be upset with me for voicing my feelings about it? If they choose to betray me, how is that ME throwing THEM away? How funny that the only 'friends' this allegation can apply to is the friend and her husband who betrayed my friendship with them. So I really would like to know who all these friends were that I used and 'threw' away. Again I say - names please! I have never asked anyone to 'pay for my friendship' - I don't have to. People were coming to me and volunteering information. People were coming to me and asking questions. I never had to 'solicit' anyone! This allegation is so patently false it is ridiculous. The poster then goes on to bash my blog and tries to turn my reporting of the activities on mylot and mylotbites as things that I am responsible for. What a joke! And how stupid to make such an assertion when the very existence of the discussion in question puts the lie to it. I reported openly - not behind closed doors on some site - the abuses the poster and friends have been responsible for, and I'M the one doing it? The logic to this arguement defies - well - logic! The poster then goes on to say that I have accused him of cyber stalking, malicious emails etc. Read the blog people! I have accused him of NO SUCH thing. It is true that I have been getting malicious emails and phone calls. But I have not accused this poster either here or in private emails to friends of this. Quite the leap into accusation there. This poster thinks he's the focus of my fight against internet cancers. LOLOL...he is merely one little cell. The poster then goes on to say that I am poisening peoples minds on mylot and people are falling away from the site because of me. How arrogant of him to make such a statement. Does it not occur to him and his friends, that the topics they post and talk together on are leaving clues to anyone who can read, just how true my blog entries are and that if people are leaving the site it is because of the behaviour of this poster and his friends - not because of me. LOL - I would really like to know how I can have so much influence over so many people when I can't post on site and don't have the email addresses of every user there that is leaving. Yes, people read my blog - but do you really think they don't have the ability to see the evidence of my blog's assertions for themselves and therefore make up their own minds? I have pointed out a very real problem. I have made my feelings about it clear. But I do not have an "entourage" and am not conducting cult like activities. My goodness, if I could do that, I would have mesmerized the mlpd a long time ago and brought them over to MY side! lolol... The poster also says I left threatening messages on his shoutbox on site. NEWS FLASH - I dropped in and said hello, used some humour and of course, they all put a negative connotation of my bon mots and the accusations began to fly. Then on that shoutbox and another, someone else using my nickname began leaving comments. Today I got proof that those comments did not originate from my computer. The poster has since had those comments removed by admin. The poster then goes on to say that one user on the site is posting things at MY instruction! Now THAT really takes the cake of false allegations! A long time member of the site is now so mesmerized by my charisma (lol) that she is no longer capable of thinking for herself? LOLOLOL...falling off my couch again at THAT one! The poster then goes on to say that he and his friends are not guilty of anything and users only need to read their discussions and comments to see that! Really? Then why THIS discussion? Why post discussions about any of this at all? Why continue to 'poke the dog'? lol Why do the responses on discussion like this smack of meaness and more and more false allegations against Fifty and her friends? If you are so innocent then why are users questioning you? Why are users leaving? Surely one little me can't be that powerful!!!!!! The poster then goes on to promote his goodness by talking about his own website. I've checked that website - good premise, but doesn't prove a thing about his goodness on mylot! LOLOL....
The resulting comments posted by his friends on this discussion prove my point about their inability to recognize the truth and their meaness. My friends and I are called a VD because I have referred to their behaviour as a cancer on the net - not the ONLY one - just a kind that I find particularly nasty. I am accused of being obsessed, bitter and not having a life. I'm a writer and these people are now giving me such good copy that I can't NOT write about them. But at least I do it in the open. That they choose to get so twisted about the truth is their problem, and as long as they continue to abuse and lie, I have decided that I will continue to answer them point by point.
I am stating my opinion and rebutting their lies. The discussion I have just rebutted is black and white proof that THEY are the ones trying to poisen people's minds. For this poster to say he couldn't write a discussion this past weekend about ADD because he was consoling another one of my victims is the height of bullsh*t! Again - name please! How utterly foolish. I was willing to let all this nonsense go several times. Discussions like this make it impossible now that they are bringing innocents into the mix. My tag line for my blog says, "I am not a victim and I will not allow anyone who touches my life to be one either". This poster and friends are now trying to make 'victims' not only of my friends, but other innocent users on site. So I will continue to post about their abuses until they stop, or "take that short blue bus to banned camp" themselves!

Mylot Cancer Spreading and I'm Fighting Back

I am sick and tired of Bird/Dragonryder blaming me for being responsible for HIS WIFE'S obsessive behaviour and everything that has come on the heels of it. You wanted proof from me of emails etc. that I have. Let's start first with a comment from Dragon left on a thread on mylot today. His wife has had so many accounts on mylot, that some users on site have become confused to who she is or will be next, so therefore the confusion over thinking she was HighReed - who by the way didn't show up on site until SK posted a thread crowing about my being banned on the day I WAS banned. When questioned by another user as to her even having an opinion about me on that thread being such a new user and all, HighReed's answer was "I have been on the outskirts of this situation for some time....." That is the same thread that Riptide posted my private emails on - out of context and OF COURSE never posted Dragon's wife's emails - there wouldn't have been enough room! lol






dragonryder (3023) 25 minutes ago
First off XXXXX, don't refer to me as Bird again. Only my friends get that priveledge. I never said YOU accused HighReed of being my wife. I said that she'd been accused of it once. I was trying to say I hoped you wouldn't be flinging those old accusations too. Talk about reading more into what is there! It doesn't matter who you think HighReed is, she has nothing to do with what happened to your friend. She does not deserve to be treated with the condescending attitude that you and others have displayed. What does your friend asking others to help her have to do with my wife ever having helped her? Aside from SteveW,unless she kept things from us in the beginning,we were the only ones she asked to help her for quite some time. When my wife was banned, your friend basically told her she was wrong for asking others to help her. What a hypocrite she is huh? She can ask God Himself and she will never get her old account back here. So she can feel free to ask all the "friends" she wants. I still stand by what I said before...when she needs you no more for her mission,she will toss you aside. That was really intelligent to post a discussion about her blog too. Wouldn't the shoutbox have been better since it can't be deleted? LOL No matter who reads that blog though, it will never change the facts. If your friend really has had all of the wrongdoings done to her that she claims, she would have taken legal action against a bunch of us by now. The fact remains that she can doctor emails she sends to you and anyone else all she wants, but for legal action, the emails would need to be seen in their original form in her email account by a lawyer and/or an officer of the law. Why the heck are you asking me what rule she broke to get banned?! LOL You said you have the emails,so you should know! Wait, she deleted all of that out of the emails though! LOL It was explained the day she was banned why she was banned! Multiple accounts and threats of hacking. Scenility much?



This is an email I got from Bird and my response when he was lying through his teeth (though I didn't know it at the time) asking me to give up the name of the person who was sending me info from mylotbites and my reply - which shows up first as it was sent on the back of the email Bird sent me. I have removed email addresses and real names BUT THAT IS ALL.


Reply Fifty to Bird show details Mar 23
I'm sorry Bird, but I can't do that. As a former journalist, I am approaching this as a professional and I have given my word that any information my source supplies will come directly to me for reasons of control and protection. I have kept you in the loop and will continue to do so, but things are, as you say, getting ugly again and my whole purpose is going to be defeated if it continues, as we are making ourselves look very very bad. I have more info that will arrive tomorrow morning and after I have vetted it, I will pass it on. Your stated issue with mylot is a lot more personal than mine. My goal is to improve the entire site by having these cretins removed, and to get mylotbites shut down. So I don't think we are totally on the same page here? Please enlighten me if I am wrong in this view. And please don't be angry that I can't do as you asked.I gave my word, I won't break it. My source is to important to me on a personal level and just tonight let me know that the mylotbites group is getting suspicious of a leak because too many things are being said on site hinting at them and their activities there.(Insert here - Bird's wife was getting loose in the mouth on site at this time) This is not good and has to stop or we are all just spinning our wheels. I for one, am going to be much more circumspect in what I say on site until my submission has been made. I hope you guys will too, if only to make sure that when we Do get in touch with admin, they will take us seriously. Let me know what you think. And again, my apologies for not being able to aceed to your request. When this is all over, and with permission, I will send you everything for your files. Fifty. - Hide quoted text -

On 3/23/07, Bird> wrote:
Fifty
If you could send me what ever information you have on the morons. I have had enough of their crap. I am sending an email to admin telling them I am tired of them coming into my discussions and starting trouble. I will inform them that no one threatened them or called them any names. Until after they abuse others. I will let them know that they have done this several times in the paste and I have the proof even though they deleted the discussions. So you know SKSOUTH took us off his friends list. I don't know why. Might of been something that was said. But to me their response in these discussions shows how ignorant they actually are. Also who is ever getting the info for you. I would appreciate it if they could send it to me also. I think when we go to do this it should be a group effort. One and all. Report them like they do everyone else. In Mass. If we can get enough people to do this then we can get them banned permantly.
Bird



From then on folks, I continued only to pass on to admin what was sent to me. And I repeat - at ADMIN'S request.
Later is was Bird's wife NOT ME, who burned up the internet emailing and emailing people, sending on to them pages from mylotbites etc., in an effort to get them to support her bid to get reinstated after her own banning.

So who's calling the kettle black here? Get off the pot Bird before you find yourself in the Fire!

I know I said that I wouldn't post about Mylot anymore - and actually this isn't about mylot - it's setting the record straight on one of the biggest liars and delusional people I have ever come across. Another cancer exposed because he stepped over the fence when I was willing to stay on my side of it.

Why I Chose To Use The Word Cancer

It has been politely brought to my attention that my use of the word cancer is hateful and bitter.
As a survivor of cancer, it is a disease I am constantly aware of and wary of - no matter where it is found or in what form. Up until less than 10 years ago, the use of the word in any context was practically whispered, the fear of the disease was so great. In the past ten years, with the onset of reality television, truth in advertising, and the lack of restrictive censorship in television programming and news stories, cancer is now a buzz word. Communities everywhere are holding walkathons and other fund raisers, for breast cancer research especially, that make the news. The colour pink has become so popular you see it everywhere these days. And as a survivor, I can't help but have that word forever etched in the forefront of my mind. The nature of the disease is an allegory really for many things in life - especially on the net. Society today is so devoid of the enforcement of social standards, that all kinds of abuses that start with one tiny idea or comment grow and multiply and infect the psyche of more people in shorter periods of time, than at any other point in history. The internet has been the most effective facilitator of this because it deals with the 'written word'. If it appears in 'black and white' then it must be true!
People accept what they read anywhere on the net much more easily than they would if the exact same thing was being spoken to them face to face in real life. To me - that instant acceptance of the written word as the 'whole truth and nothing but the truth' is a kind of internet disease that can be likened to a cancer.
So I have used the analogy of the disease of cancer as my reference to the abuses I see and have/will report on, on the net. Internet abuse is growing, person by person, cell by cell. The very nature of the net allows it, promotes it, feeds it. Without censorship it will continue to grow, as more and more people become open to attack by simply becoming a presence on the net. That doesn't make it ok. Too many other things in today's society are being accepted simply because greater and greater numbers of people 'are doing it'. This has only led to the breakdown of the values and standards of our society. The forward momentum of new technology leaves no room for taking a break and thinking through all the permutations of any given change so quickly thrust upon us by that ever changing technology. We are in a constant race socially and economically to keep up to our modern age, that we have lost the ability to simply be 'ladies and gentlemen'. And that too, is a kind of cancer.
So, take it or leave it folks - there is no more evocative word that I can use, to capture attention for the points I want to illustrate, than the word cancer.

Cancers Inherent In User Names

In surfing the net and checking in on various websties, I have noticed a phenomena that has served as a wonderful educational tool when contemplating which sites to explore further. I find the clues to the mind-sets of people in their user names. Now, some names are obvious - they are simply shortened versions of the users real name. Others are obviously fantasy related. Some are just plain cute and appealing. Some are literary or philisophical. Some just don't make any sense at all and can barely be pronounced. It is the ones that immediately conjure up a dark feeling or a dark emotion that give me the creeps. The use of words like, angry or devil, hate, or money, or synonims for those words immediately turn me off. If you are angry or want to convey the idea that you have a dark side and it's so important to you that you have to use it in your user name - then you are definitely not someone I want to exchange words with on a regualar basis. Enough of my nightmares send some days south as it is! lol The tides of my life don't need to be fed by the maximum power of people with mind-sets that allow no light of understanding or tolerance to shine through. I have been rarely disappointed in the belief that people with such negative user names, are truly cancer cells spreading and infecting all those who come into contact with them too often. If I find a site where the user names seem, for the most part, to include words that conjure up dark and nasty images, I surf on. Sadly though, people who find these kinds of user names 'appropriate, funny, cool' or whatever their excuse is, have in actuality, nothing of value to contribute. From the get go their 'vibe' is negative. For those of us who would rather interact with positive people and be on the receiving end of positive vibes - such negativity will find itself confined to places where others of like mind flourish. I mean after all - who wants to tangle with an angry cat or an angel of the devil, or a power tripper? Most people who find themselves on posting sites, message boards, etc., are looking for positive interaction, support and acceptance. It's very hard - unless you are truly a dark person yourself, to WANT to actively participate in discussions with people, who by their very user name would send small children screaming into the streets. There are times when we all find ourselves involved in such discussions anyway. But those of us who have imagination and life experience understand what really 'lies beneath' and learn to tread carefully around such discussions. Some of us throw caution to the wind and lean into the negativity when it is thrust in our faces, and fight back. Woe betide those that do however. "Evil grows in cracks and holes, and lives in people's minds" and has been the age old struggle since time immemorial. We will never stamp out evil completely. It grows exponentially, in various ways and forms, as our world becomes more open to attack. Should we lay down and take it? Should we ignore it and hope it will go away? Should we let them win by letting them continue to exercise their evilness? Of course not! That is the coward's way out. If you want to change the world - start in your own backyard folks. Learn to recognize where the darkness is. Light a candle of truth, beauty - whatever positive vibe you can send out there to shed some light on the darkness and help others see their way. Beware of user names that smack of the 'dark side' of people's natures and the cancer that lies within. Make your 'backyard' bloom with the light of love, peace and beauty. God Bless!

Internet Cancer: Hypocrisy

Hypocrisy is the homage which vice pays to virtue. — Duc de La Rochefoucauld (1613-1680)
The internet is a breeding ground for hypocrisy of all kinds. We see it in the unsolicited emails we get from people who want our money by offering money making opportunities. We see it on websites all over the net that seduce us, play on our needs and weaknesses and tell us sob stories to gain our sympathy and pick our pockets. Everyone and anyone who has spent time on the net has seen or been a victim of this kind of cancer. The good thing about this particular hypocrisy is the ability to delete it immediately from our view. It elicits no more response from savvy net users anymore than a vague hope that - well maybe this one is the one - it gets checked out - it more than likely gets rejected. Note to all users: If it asks for money up front, hit DELETE!
The hypocrisy I see almost as often though, is the hypocrisy of forum users, stalkers, and just plain mean minded people that accuse and abuse the vulnerable, the strong, the different and those that can out talk them. These hypocrites attack you, smear you, libel you and make your life a living hell simply because they can. They make me sick. But they REALLY make me sick when they then post in their own defense! WHAT? How can anyone defend behaviour that smacks of evil and small mindness and an ego so huge that it's a wonder they don't explode all over their own computers! It boggles the mind. What is so terribly sad about it, is the fact that the target of their vitriol has no avenue of escape and no recourse of retribution. I know, I know, some of you will claim "Then just don't go where they are, stay off the net, ... etc. etc."
Get real people. We all know how addictive the net is. We have other reasons for being where we are on it besides providing an avenue of contact by these people. And the REAL question is not the 'victim' being forced to disappear, but the reasons why the victimizer DOESN'T! The net needs legislation that reflects the laws and expectations of a just society. People like those from the "Dark Side" on Mylot need to be slapped into irons and pay for their crimes against humanity and the innocent. Administrators of websites who hide behind a 'hands off' policy need to have their ad support yanked out from under them and their sites shut down until they grow up enough to realize that moderation in all things by ALL users is the only socially acceptable policy to adopt and to run a site by. To allow hypocrisy to flourish and spread and continue to destroy the lives and reputations of innocent people is to me the height of arrogance and cowardice. So people - find a hypocrite - expose a hypocrite - neutralize a hypocrite. One more cancer cell bites the dust - once cell at a time.

Internet Cancer: Virtual Friendships Gone Wrong

If you are here, then you are addicted to the internet. lol There is nothing wrong with that. It happens to everyone who owns a computer. The ability to reach out and 'touch' someone is seductive and alluring and rapidly becoming the 'pick up joint' of technology. People 'find themselves' on the internet. They join sites which allow them to interact with others of like mind, shared interests, whatever their reason for being on the net is. Considering the huge huge numbers of people who go on line everyday, the proliferation of websites is inevitable. I am always surprised that when I finally venture outside of my house, the air isn't rippling with 0's and 1's! We literally live in a matrix these days! lol With this ability to connect, comes the forging of friendships. Some remain 'virtual' - that is, on the net and on the net only. Some cross over into real life, and face to face meetings happen. It is the 'virtual' friendships that concern me. People connect - but do they really? There is NO substitute for face to face, exchange of chemical, pheramone, and instinctual reactions. In 'real' life, we usually know from the gut, whether or not a person is good/bad/ambivalent or just plain someone that attracts us for some reason and we become interested in getting to know them better. On the net it is different. All we have to go by is someone's word. And let's face it. Not everyone can express themselves in writing as well as Shakespeare! To my mind, that cry's out for tolerance, understanding and being willing to give a person the benefit of the doubt. Connections happen quicker, if the words being read, exchanged, offered, are what we want to hear, something that makes us feel good, opinions being expressed that mirror our own. And that is where the danger lies. Because people lie. People deceive. People manipulate. We know this in real life - and yet we fall for these people on the net because OUR INSTINCTS do NOT kick in soon enough. It is only our understanding of our own life experience that allows us to finally see through the written seduction and manipulation being exercised upon us. Some of us get 'away' in time. Some of us do not. Some of us NEVER do. I have lived long enough and am familiar with the English language enough, to almost instantly recognize the thought patterns inherent in a person's speech or writing. I don't mean by that, that I know what people are thinking. I mean that I can usually tell what kind of a mind set a person has by their approach to the language, the ideas they express and the reactions they have to other comments. People are creatures of habit. And habits are hard to break. It takes a very strong minded individual to change their mind set, own it and get over it and move on to something better. Unfortunately most people don't even understand that concept and therefore never implement it within themselves. And they are the easiest to spot after enough exposure. They use the same phrases, express themselves within the same vernacular, vocabulary, grammatical text etc. It is their 'style' and after awhile it is obvious and easily spotted as, "Oh yeah, that's so and so". People cannot hide from their own style of expression. What is frightening about virtual friendships is the fallout when they go wrong. Because we don't have the same 'handle' on a person that we would have in real life, the rush to judgement is swift and destructive. Even though we are experiencing people in one dimension only, we negatively react to being disappointed, angered, questioned - whatever the reason for the fall out - by them as if they were a real life best friend who suddenly betrayed us for no reason. We go on the attack and do not let up until the person is humiliated, demoralized and damaged in ways that in real life we would be put in jail for. This kind of forging/destruction of friendships is most obvious on forums where people allegedly gather to interact as adults. Sadly, for many people - being an adult isn't as much fun as being no better than a schoolyard bully. And as there is no place for bullies in real life - there should NOT be a place for them on public forums where their behaviour can result in the destroying of lives and reputations.
So folks, if you come across a cyber bully - do what you would do in real life. Report them, stand up to them, DON'T LET THEM WIN! Let's clean up the cancer of virtual friendships gone wrong.

One Internet Cancer Cell

If you read my first blog - you know that I am on a mission to stamp out internet cancers, even if I have to do it one 'cell' at a time. Today I am going to expose the most prevelant and the most insidious kind. A user who thinks that just because they say something - it must be true.
Users like this are found everywhere - but where they are most often observed in on posting sites. They gather like minded users around them like a cloak of invisibility and protection from the realities of life and honest communication that so obviously eludes their understanding. They depend on their cloak of friends to keep them safe, and should that cloak fail, they go on the attack and become rabid and libelous. One such user on Mylot is Riptide. I have never in my life come across someone as nasty and narrowminded and unfeeling of the effect of her words and opinions. There is such a lack of tolerance in this user for the truth that it defies logic. No matter how inocuous a comment, if this user doesn't agree the claws come out, the insults, veiled and unveiled are made, the twisting of words begins and before you know it some poor innocent user is being attacked by every one of Riptide's friends simply because - well if SHE can do it - so can they, afterall NO ONE has stopped them yet! I have yet to see this user say anything nice or half decently intelligent to anyone other than her friends. She has no tolerance for the opinions of others. She is convinced that other users are always targeting her and her friends and goes on the attack. Her hypocrisy is legendary to good users. She boasts about reporting people for the very infringements of guidelines she herself is guilty of - lack of tolerance, multiple accounts, abuse (foul language especially) and contributes nothing of value to the site unless she's talking to her friends - and there is NO value in that group anyway, so the point is really moot. She has no respect for the law - but hides behind it thinking she is safe! lol
She has no respect for the rights of others to express their opinions - but hides behind the oxymoron "Free Speech" for herself and therefore, it's ok to bash people and reduce them to dust. She calls people names, makes insulting comments about their family members and then boo hoos all over the site when her own 'power base' is attacked or threatened. She makes the most outrageous accusations about users and then when asked for proof of her assertions - poof! off the thread and no answer to be had from her! But lately she has crossed the line from evil into criminal. She is a pagan/wiccan, ( I have no problem with that,) so surely she believes in Karma. Well Riptide - Karma is on it's way........it gets all of us in the end, don't you know!
One Cancer cell at a time folks. Wherever you find one - expose it, stand up to it's bullying, don't let it defeat you - stamp it out before it spreads!

Internet Cancers

Hello folks and welcome to my blog.
Today I want to get in a rant that some of you may take exception to - so be it. I'm mad and I'm not going to take it anymore!
I have been an internet user for some time now. Overall I have enjoyed the experience. There are always going to be scammers and profiteers on the net oh so willing to take your money and leave you in the dust. Experience is the only cure for that. I am cured.
HOWEVER - there is another internet cancer that is SOOOOO prelevant and so ugly that it needs the attention of our legislators to find a cure for.
I'm talking about message boards, paid to post forums and ESPECIALLY a website called Mylot.
I was - note the WAS - a member of this site for some time. In the beginning, after I had built up a friends list, I enjoyed it immensely. As I became more familiar with the site and more comfortable spending time there (it's VERY addictive! lol), I became more confident in the responses I made. I was always very considerate of the people I responded to and those who responded to me. But the more I surfed and read, the more I became aware of a group of posters whose sole purpose seemed to be to flex their virtual muscles of ignorance, anger and delight in spreading pain and inflaming others into responses best left for playground bullies.
For some time I stayed away from those people. But one rainy day they had the nerve to pick on a particularly vulnerable user whose only crime was a dysfunctional life and poor grammar.
I lost my Irish temper. I responded to the abuser by simply asking why they felt it necessary or even nice, to be so abusive to someone. Well the war was on. That particular comment attracted every nasty member of a group, that up until then I didn't even know existed on site.
They called themselves the MLPD - mylot police department. Very few of their members started discussions of any value - rather they stalked the site reporting spammers, abusers (!) and other guildeline misuses. Ok fine. Noble concept - every site that depends on ad revenue needs to be carefully monitored. But to use their 'in with admin' to also be rude, mean, judgemental and just plain nasty and foul mouthed to people is NOT noble - in 'real' society it's not even acceptable. The thread where my war with these people began is I believe, now gone.
This group then began dogging every comment I made on other threads - that had NOTHING to do with them. They had simply put me on their hit list and were determined to get me off site. So I fought back. I started a thread of my own declaring war on them. It got deleted. I started another thread naming names (I was too new then to know that this was a major no-no) and outing the most abusive and foul mouthed members of this group. It got deleted. But other things were happening, which were the main purpose of my discussions. Other good users were becoming aware and asking questions. More vulnerable users were being left alone. The focus was on me and I was ok with that. But I undersestimated the world of the internet. I was still to new to it and too trusting of connections forged on it. Someone I thought was a friend, and on board with a group of us who wanted to see the mlpd gone or neutralized, was really a wolf in sheeps clothing. We had become (I thought) friends off line as well as on I had given her my address, my phone number, my email. I became so completely sucked into her vendetta against someone else, that I jumped on her bandwagon of nastiness and found myself behaving in a way that today still makes me ashamed of myself. That 'someone else' has since become a friend of mine. We worked our differences out, because I finally woke up to my 'other' friends total obsession with UNREALITY and made my peace with that 'someone else'.( It also taught me how easily it is to become the kind of internet user I am now so dead set against.) Well apparently, some people just don't know when to let go. My former friend has given me quite the education on internet cancer. She forwarded all my private emails, addresses, phone number - my IDENTITY on to the mlpd. She conviced them that it was me and me alone who was responsible for every negative thing that happened on mylot. It didn't matter that after the 'mlpd war' was over, I was staying away from the whole lot of them and concentrating on my own friends and my own life. No - I had made the fatal error of standing up for what was right, making friends with 'all the wrong people' (LOL) and no longer feeding into her obsession with her own narcissistic view of life. The end result of her obsession was the publishing on mylot of my email address, my private emails, my full legal name and twisted versions of the truth. The fact that my personal life was keeping me to busy to respond to their crap didn't stop the tide of libel, identity theft, copyright infringement etc. The end result for me, was being banned from the site.
So be it. I can still surf. I can still witness the continued abuse that now runs rampant on mylot.
So take note folks of these names on mylot and if you every join the site - STAY AWAY FROM THEM: MaxPower,Riptide,Dragonryder,,SKSouth,
AngryKitty, and others you will find on their threads.
Check out their threads - there are other names that will crop up on their threads over and over as they are all friends and when they aren't abusing others with comments, they are posting threads making fun of them, mocking them, generally whining and complaining about them.
Many good users have complained to admin. Many good users have been locked out of the site, caused to be banned by the false reporting of this group and many good users are being ignored by admin while this cancer continues to grow and spread. They even have their own website where they used to go to complain, to plot against, to brag about how they would take users down, to generally badmouth mylot users, mylot admin and anyone else on their radar. I had friends offer to send me copies of convos on this site, and when I had enough - I sent it all to mylot admin- at THEIR request - and suddenly the mlpd are 'on strike'. Now they are becoming bolder, fouler and nastier on site with impunity. It is disgusting and just plain wrong.
It is a cancer. A cancer I have been finding on other sites, other message boards, other blog sites. It is a sad indication of what our society has come to when evil like this grows and grows and NO ONE seems able to stem it's foul tide.
So I am serving notice here that I will continue to speak out against this filth and use every resource at my fingertips to fight it and educate others to it and to hopefully someday turn that tide against them so that they drown in their own nastiness.
Thanks for 'listening' and feel free to comment.