This is a rant and I make no apologies for it. I stated on a previous blog that my anger - which initiated this blog back in June, would now be directed at the He/She Dragon, but recent posts have drawn someone else into the circle and he is the object of this rant. You all know him. He's posted on several of my blogs under his own name and others. He is one of the foulest mouthed and deluded mental midgets I have ever had the misfortune to come across. He's in his mid-thirties but talks like a meglomaniac twelve year old who just discovered the art of cursing. He gets an idea in his head and it becomes truth. He rejects real truth because - oh gee, he might have to change his opinion a bit. He picks and picks and picks on the weak and vulnerable and then has the gall to post on his friends threads as if he were the most liberal minded person in the world. The height of hypocrisy and such a joke to read.
He's right when he says I don't know everything about him. Of course I don't. But every post he makes reinforces what I do know - that he is foul, disgusting and a coward. I'm sure he has a good side - most people do. But does he show it to anyone but his friends on line? Not often, because if you post anything that 'excites his passion' (his excuse for using foul and disgusting language!) he'll lambast you into the next county, hide behind his self justified 'attitude' and never give you a break even when you prove him wrong over and over. He will call you foul names, make STUPID allegations about you and your life - of which he couldn't possibly know the realities of, and reject outright what you tell him. He will judge you as the worst of the worst if you disagree with him or tell him to put his money where his mouth is and stir up his friends to do the same. He will threaten you with all kinds of things, but hmmmmm.... except for running his mouth, never follows through.
He is a sickness on the net for many good people and a cancer that defies description.
Ladies and gentlemen, not in anger, but in TOTAL DISGUST, I give you, MaxPower!
Here is a sample of his 'work' just in case you missed his previous posts:
MaxPower1971
Wow I missed all this?? Damn notifications... The Stephane post is mine....It's my real first name...and to think she says she knows ALL about me lol....the dumb tw@t can't figure it out....I didn't even block my IP when going on her blog...ever...Thing is I responded so fast I forgot to switch the username because my default account name is Stephane lol And no worries about pissing me off Dragon...just let her rip lol!
MaxPower1971
Don't you just love the part where she says she owns a horse farm in Maui??When I laugh my head off about it she says it belongs to an ex boyfriend from like stoneage but its still under her name...YEEEEEAAAAAAAHHHHHHH OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKK That &%&* is one sick puppy
Rated!
MaxPower1971
She can badmouth all she wants,more napalm for my thrower...her life must be REAL boring to fantasize herself in someone else's life!! If the FBI came,then they are not so good LMAO!!!I'm hard to hide with 4 pick up trucks,2 tandems and a dozer ROFL!!! I think I REALLY got to her when I called her and her friends Welfare cases.....can anyone say
BUSTED?
And here's one he just posted on another of my blog entries which more than proves everything I've said here. :
MaxPower1971 has left a new comment on the post "The Dragon's Blowing Smoke Again!":
"Hiding under a girl's name......OOOOOOOOOOOOOOKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKK
Who can't read now??
How is STEPHANE a girls name you twit???I happen to have a name other than my nethandle,and I use my name whenever I fuckin please you dumb doorknob.
pathetic....really....you're fishing for it bitch,and when it bites you'll be fuckin sorry you ever did mess with me....I told you,the only way you'll get rid of me is by taking off all the blogshit about me and my friends,other than that you are fucked fucked fucked.....
Oh and merry christmas you cunt ."
Nice huh? What a guy our passionate Max with the attitude is! LOL
Now again, to keep the record straight Max:
1. I don't check my IP's all the time. I know who you are when you post under your own name, and when you don't - for whatever reason, I don't jump to the conclusion it IS you. That wouldn't be fair to the poster in case it WAS someone else. But hey, thanks for the info STEPHANE!
2. I'm twenty years older than you Max, so yes I have a history from the 'stoneage'. But careful there Max, because one day you'll be 'stoneage' too! As for my farm in Mauii - don't you wish you were so lucky! lol Believe what you want, but unless you can prove otherwise, stop making stupid remarks. If you can that is. lol
3.And again I say, the truth is the truth - I don't have to badmouth you, just tell the truth. FYI - the truth isn't always pretty.
4. I never said the FBI visited you - where did you come up with that delusion? Again, running off at the mouth over your own lies.
5. And no, you didn't REALLY get to me when you called me and my friends welfare cases. How stupid are you? Whatever gave you the impression me or my friends were/are welfare cases? Or is that the worst thing you can think of, besides just being crude, to call someone? Again, you just show how ignorant you really are, how mean-minded, and how juvenile. And even if someone I knew was on welfare - how dare you make people in that position sound less than who and what they are as people. Careful yourself there Max - there but for the grace of God and a good divorce lawyer go you! Or anyone for that matter. Just how low can you go hmmmm? I'm sure you'll show me! lol
6. I'm not reading your discussions until someone sends me a link - like Stephanie - the she of the He/She Dragon. So it's YOUR friends feeding the 'dementia' of Max. And anyone reading what you write here would probably have a problem believing I was the demented one with the kind of drivel you leave on this blog. As for being angry at YOU Max - you still don't get it, do you? You DISGUST ME, you make me laugh, but you don't make me angry anymore. You are too insignificant to me to arouse such a strong emotion. But apparently you thrive on thinking otherwise, so keep on keeping on and I will keep on exposing YOUR dementia! lol
So there you are Ladies and Gentlemen. Exposing Max once again because he just can't keep his mouth in line or his head on straight.
Rant over for me ....... lol
UPDATE: This was sent to me from mylot. It's just too funny - MAX promoting my blog! LOL
And as for what Whiteheather is talking about - I honestly have no idea. I didn't
know Rose when I was a member there, and in fact didn't even meet her until I
started this blog. There has been some confusion over this for some time, but those
are the facts. She started emailing me after Riptide published my email address on
mylot and I visited her website and left some comments. As for Whiteheather - I
didn't know her at all on mylot other than through her friends. I honestly don't
recall ever posting on any of her discussions, or her on any of mine and for the
'oral cancer' discussion she is talking about - I haven't a clue!
Anyway - thanks for the promo Max. What a lovely Xmas gift! lol
whiteheather39
I wonder if this is the same Rosie I had a bunch of trouble with a few month back? She got two of my discussion deleted for (according to her) plaigarizing. She fancies herself as a wanna be writer. Is this the same person? However I actually got the one discussion about oral cancer reinstated and boy did that piss her and her friend fifty...something off big time I would like to check out what she is saying about you but I have forgotten her ID or blog name.
MaxPower1971
Im talkin about fifty...dont think Rose is her friend no more http://itsreallymefifty.blogspot.com/
And you are right Max - Rose and I do not communicate anymore. I wish her the best though. Contrary to popular belief - I DO NOT throw my friends away.
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Saturday, December 22, 2007
Friday, December 14, 2007
Thoughts on the He/She Dragon
I was interested to find a comment from the he/she Dragon of mylot on my last blog entry. I wasn't sure (one never is) whether it was Steph or Bird who wrote the nasty little comment I blogged about, but Steph, bless her underhanded little heart cleared that up for me - and many others I'm sure. So she is still posting on mylot under her husband's name. Not legal for anyone else according to guidelines, but I guess being on the 'inside' now gives her certain priviledges. Lucky her! Just wish if she had nothing to fear from admin, that she would have the courage to identify herself. I know others who feel the same way. But then, the modis operendi of such people is to abuse and confuse.
Anyway - reading the spiteful little comments she left on a couple of my blog entries made something very clear to me. And sadly has brought out the worst in me.
What Steph and Bird did was unforgiveable, and crossed lines of common decency on many levels. They will never admit that - they will always blame me, and that's ok. But the fact remains that both of them DID step over those lines and many people, not just me, felt the fall out from it. I started this blog to identify and expose this kind of behaviour, but I now realize that that rationale was simply a mask of my true feelings and the real object of my deep rooted sense of betrayal and anger lies squarely at the feet of Steph and Bird. That they have found their 'true home' with other like minded 'cancers' was inevitable really, and I have had fun with the others. But it is time to stop involving them in my anger against Steph and Bird.
I will not apologize for anything I have said in these blog entries, or for my attitude against abusive and narrowminded thinking and expression. Unless they continue to make false and inflammatory statements, discussions, or topics about me that need addressing, I will leave them alone. You have my word on that, and though it won't mean anything to them, it does mean something to me and many others.
As for Steph and Bird - My anger will be directed against them as it should always have been, and though I would never stoop to their level of abuse and nastiness, I will no longer be polite or use humour. I will express exactly how I feel and if it sounds harsh - tough! They have brought this on themselves and I'm tired of their crap, their lies, their insinuations and their attempts to sabatoge my life. They may choose to believe whatever they wish about me, but I have yet to see them answer anything I've refuted, meet any challenge I've given, or prove to anyone that they deserve any consideration at all - except their 'dark side' friends who are of no account to me anyway. And I completely understand that the feeling is mutual.
You told Max, Steph that you thought it may be difficult to get to me. Trust me, you don't really want to try and if you do, you'll have no one to blame but yourself. So my best advice is to just leave off, drop me from your memory bank, stop trying to keep tabs on me, and get on with your sad little life. And fyi - no matter how you read this - there are NO threats here. I will not bother with you, but I won't back down either if you bring your particular brand of crap to my attention - which is what I meant when I said "you don't really want to try...".
Whew! I feel better now that I've finally put my anger where it belongs. I sincerely hope that this will be end of it, that you will leave my friends alone, me alone and just grow up and out of all of our lives.
UPDATE: This was comment sent to me from mylot made by Dragon. AGAIN, got his facts wrong as he says:
Quote:
"Amazing, simply amazing. I can't believe she thinks my wife gave her a link to something to get back at you. I don't know whether to laugh or vomit anymore. This has just gotten so old. "
Now here is what he is referring to and what was really said - and these quotes are from my blog itself so you can check them out:
whoeveryouwanttothinkiam said...
Since it bothers you so much,here's another post about you.http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/1353249.aspx?p=2FYI no one has badmouthed you until you started on Max again.
December 18, 2007 10:24 AM
itsreallymefifty said...
whoeveryouwant... - Well thanks for the link. I'll add you to my folder of people who send me links!
So as you can see, a link was definitely given to me from one of Max's friends hiding under a phony name, but I DID NOT say anywhere that it was Steph who sent it. In fact I gave the credit to 'whoeveryouwanttothinkiam'. THEN I went on to quote the He/She Dragon as that blog entry WAS about them. But hey, if Bird wants to lay it Steph's feet by saying I said it was Steph - well then I can only conclude his knickers are in a twist because it WAS his wife posting under that name. LOL So I can understand why he's feeling 'sick'! LOL
Anyway - reading the spiteful little comments she left on a couple of my blog entries made something very clear to me. And sadly has brought out the worst in me.
What Steph and Bird did was unforgiveable, and crossed lines of common decency on many levels. They will never admit that - they will always blame me, and that's ok. But the fact remains that both of them DID step over those lines and many people, not just me, felt the fall out from it. I started this blog to identify and expose this kind of behaviour, but I now realize that that rationale was simply a mask of my true feelings and the real object of my deep rooted sense of betrayal and anger lies squarely at the feet of Steph and Bird. That they have found their 'true home' with other like minded 'cancers' was inevitable really, and I have had fun with the others. But it is time to stop involving them in my anger against Steph and Bird.
I will not apologize for anything I have said in these blog entries, or for my attitude against abusive and narrowminded thinking and expression. Unless they continue to make false and inflammatory statements, discussions, or topics about me that need addressing, I will leave them alone. You have my word on that, and though it won't mean anything to them, it does mean something to me and many others.
As for Steph and Bird - My anger will be directed against them as it should always have been, and though I would never stoop to their level of abuse and nastiness, I will no longer be polite or use humour. I will express exactly how I feel and if it sounds harsh - tough! They have brought this on themselves and I'm tired of their crap, their lies, their insinuations and their attempts to sabatoge my life. They may choose to believe whatever they wish about me, but I have yet to see them answer anything I've refuted, meet any challenge I've given, or prove to anyone that they deserve any consideration at all - except their 'dark side' friends who are of no account to me anyway. And I completely understand that the feeling is mutual.
You told Max, Steph that you thought it may be difficult to get to me. Trust me, you don't really want to try and if you do, you'll have no one to blame but yourself. So my best advice is to just leave off, drop me from your memory bank, stop trying to keep tabs on me, and get on with your sad little life. And fyi - no matter how you read this - there are NO threats here. I will not bother with you, but I won't back down either if you bring your particular brand of crap to my attention - which is what I meant when I said "you don't really want to try...".
Whew! I feel better now that I've finally put my anger where it belongs. I sincerely hope that this will be end of it, that you will leave my friends alone, me alone and just grow up and out of all of our lives.
UPDATE: This was comment sent to me from mylot made by Dragon. AGAIN, got his facts wrong as he says:
Quote:
"Amazing, simply amazing. I can't believe she thinks my wife gave her a link to something to get back at you. I don't know whether to laugh or vomit anymore. This has just gotten so old. "
Now here is what he is referring to and what was really said - and these quotes are from my blog itself so you can check them out:
whoeveryouwanttothinkiam said...
Since it bothers you so much,here's another post about you.http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/1353249.aspx?p=2FYI no one has badmouthed you until you started on Max again.
December 18, 2007 10:24 AM
itsreallymefifty said...
whoeveryouwant... - Well thanks for the link. I'll add you to my folder of people who send me links!
So as you can see, a link was definitely given to me from one of Max's friends hiding under a phony name, but I DID NOT say anywhere that it was Steph who sent it. In fact I gave the credit to 'whoeveryouwanttothinkiam'. THEN I went on to quote the He/She Dragon as that blog entry WAS about them. But hey, if Bird wants to lay it Steph's feet by saying I said it was Steph - well then I can only conclude his knickers are in a twist because it WAS his wife posting under that name. LOL So I can understand why he's feeling 'sick'! LOL
Monday, December 10, 2007
The Dragon's Blowing Smoke Again!
It seems the Dragon of mylot is at it again, and again I must refute his/her outright baloney.
On a recent discussion (about this blog, don't you know! LOL) Dragon bemoans the fact that I had the nerve to devote an entry to poor Max, who has been so badly maligned here. (HA!)
He/she, (one never knows if it's really Dragonryder himself or his wife who is posting), has "believed for awhile now that she (that would be ME, lol) and her friends were still carrying on their bashing on their forum board, niftyfifty."
Now, the niftyfifty site hasn't been used by me or my friends ever since the top Fifty's became staff members of another site. I myself haven't even been to it in a long time. And NONE OF US EVER BASHED ANYONE THERE! That was the whole point of that site being set up. To get away from such behaviour and it was never indulged in.
So Dragon - if you have PROOF to the contrary I dare you to post it here - otherwise watch your mouth and be careful what you intimate about innocent people. That's just plain meanminded and unnecessary and FALSE.
He/she then goes on to say that he/she " didn't want to get wrapped in her (my) insanity again, and so thought it best to catch up on what she was blabbing this time...." WHAT? Explain that please. You may consider my blog insanity because it exposes you and yours as the mean minded cowards you are, but that speaks more to YOUR insantity than mine - and "catch up..".
Catch up on what? You make it sound like I've been all over the net babbling about you all, and that couldn't be further from the truth. So again, I say, POST PROOF or watch your mouth!
He/she then goes to be amazed that I am "still saying that someone stole her (my) identity." Well DUH! YOU (or someone you know!) DID! Signing someone up to websites using their personal information and not your own, without their knowledge is IDENTITY THEFT! Especially when those sign- ups result in financial loss. And the last time anyone checked - THAT'S ILLEGAL! Therefore - laws were broken. Again DUH! As for them being in jail - don't make ME laugh. People get away with this behaviour all the time, as on this scale, it's too petty to prosecute, but that still doesn't make it legal.
As for my having a lawyer - well wouldn't you if you were in my shoes? It just seemed a prudent move for me to make when Rip stepped over the line publishing my private emails, and the fallout began. I may be insane (by YOUR definition anyway) but that doesn't mean everyone agrees with you and retaining a lawyer was a dumb move. Sheesh, why does the thought that I've been smart enough to have legal advice scare everyone so much! lol
He/she then goes on to say "the FBI came to her house..." Well blah, blah right back at you, because I NEVER SAID THAT! It was your friends who said that I should get a visit from them. So again - get your bloody facts straight, you pontificating arm chair idiot! --- oops, sorry, broke my own rule about proper posting manners. My apologies, but you get the point.
And as for getting a phone call from Dr. Phil - again, you are so wrong. I got the call alright. It was after I'd been signed up to a match making site. My husband was sitting right there when the call came, and I have it recorded. So google Dr. Phil and find the sites he's associated with and then come back and call me a liar again. I dare you.
But the most dense part of Dragon's smoke is this: "It would be nice to see you (Max) teach her a lesson, and if you come up with a way or two, I do hope you'll alert me so I can watch the fun".
Nice huh? Seems going over to the dark side has removed any vestige of fair play or niceness from this insignificant he/she Dragon.
I hope you read this Dragon. You have proven once again, that I was right to distrust you and right in everything I've ever posted on this blog about you and your friends.
I don't post about any of you anywhere else and would dearly love to stop posting about you here, but as I've said, every time you tell a lie I will expose it.
Put THAT in your pipe and smoke it!
UPDATE: Well readers it seems that the Dragon has decided to leave mylot. Champagne all around! lol Anyway, the Dragon posts a good bye discussion - too funny considering how against this kind of thing he/she was in the past, but regardless, post one he/she did. Now, the Dragon could have been the fine upstanding citizen he/she claims to be and just kept to the present and admitted that they found Role Playing online (ROFL) more interesting these days than mylot and therefore wouldn't be around the site much anymore. But NOOOOOOOO he/she had to stick the knife into yours truly one more time. And here are the quotes:
"dragonryder
1 day ago
With all that you've dealt with here, I can't believe you've never considered leaving. I considered starting over once, but I wasn't going to give a certain someone the satisfaction. I am definitely keeping the account open. Who knows, I might pop in once in awhile to comment to other people's discussions, but I doubt I'll ever start anymore. Yes I know where to find you, and I'm sorry I've been bad about staying in touch. I think it's the winter blues. I am glad we are friends too."
"dragonryder
11 hours ago
Oh that started last year in May. My reasons for leaving now are just being bored, and not wanting to do anything online that requires much thinking and/or emotion. I am more into my role playing game now. The person from before is not a member now, that I know of. She got banned. She has friends here though, but they don't worry me. Good luck with your time here, and thanks for being a friend."
These two comments were given to two separate people. So it seems that all along Dragon has been a role player and has now come out of the closet about it and mylot suffers another loss!
Rather makes you wonder doesn't it? LOL
But he/she says the account will stay open, so another bid for sympathy will be negated in the future with a return to mylot. And so it goes, and so it goes. This group has posted more good-bye discussions that anyone else and it just makes me ROFL to be sent another one. So the group gets whittled down a little more and that can only be good for mylot. Bye bye Dragon. Have fun in your new virtual life.
On a recent discussion (about this blog, don't you know! LOL) Dragon bemoans the fact that I had the nerve to devote an entry to poor Max, who has been so badly maligned here. (HA!)
He/she, (one never knows if it's really Dragonryder himself or his wife who is posting), has "believed for awhile now that she (that would be ME, lol) and her friends were still carrying on their bashing on their forum board, niftyfifty."
Now, the niftyfifty site hasn't been used by me or my friends ever since the top Fifty's became staff members of another site. I myself haven't even been to it in a long time. And NONE OF US EVER BASHED ANYONE THERE! That was the whole point of that site being set up. To get away from such behaviour and it was never indulged in.
So Dragon - if you have PROOF to the contrary I dare you to post it here - otherwise watch your mouth and be careful what you intimate about innocent people. That's just plain meanminded and unnecessary and FALSE.
He/she then goes on to say that he/she " didn't want to get wrapped in her (my) insanity again, and so thought it best to catch up on what she was blabbing this time...." WHAT? Explain that please. You may consider my blog insanity because it exposes you and yours as the mean minded cowards you are, but that speaks more to YOUR insantity than mine - and "catch up..".
Catch up on what? You make it sound like I've been all over the net babbling about you all, and that couldn't be further from the truth. So again, I say, POST PROOF or watch your mouth!
He/she then goes to be amazed that I am "still saying that someone stole her (my) identity." Well DUH! YOU (or someone you know!) DID! Signing someone up to websites using their personal information and not your own, without their knowledge is IDENTITY THEFT! Especially when those sign- ups result in financial loss. And the last time anyone checked - THAT'S ILLEGAL! Therefore - laws were broken. Again DUH! As for them being in jail - don't make ME laugh. People get away with this behaviour all the time, as on this scale, it's too petty to prosecute, but that still doesn't make it legal.
As for my having a lawyer - well wouldn't you if you were in my shoes? It just seemed a prudent move for me to make when Rip stepped over the line publishing my private emails, and the fallout began. I may be insane (by YOUR definition anyway) but that doesn't mean everyone agrees with you and retaining a lawyer was a dumb move. Sheesh, why does the thought that I've been smart enough to have legal advice scare everyone so much! lol
He/she then goes on to say "the FBI came to her house..." Well blah, blah right back at you, because I NEVER SAID THAT! It was your friends who said that I should get a visit from them. So again - get your bloody facts straight, you pontificating arm chair idiot! --- oops, sorry, broke my own rule about proper posting manners. My apologies, but you get the point.
And as for getting a phone call from Dr. Phil - again, you are so wrong. I got the call alright. It was after I'd been signed up to a match making site. My husband was sitting right there when the call came, and I have it recorded. So google Dr. Phil and find the sites he's associated with and then come back and call me a liar again. I dare you.
But the most dense part of Dragon's smoke is this: "It would be nice to see you (Max) teach her a lesson, and if you come up with a way or two, I do hope you'll alert me so I can watch the fun".
Nice huh? Seems going over to the dark side has removed any vestige of fair play or niceness from this insignificant he/she Dragon.
I hope you read this Dragon. You have proven once again, that I was right to distrust you and right in everything I've ever posted on this blog about you and your friends.
I don't post about any of you anywhere else and would dearly love to stop posting about you here, but as I've said, every time you tell a lie I will expose it.
Put THAT in your pipe and smoke it!
UPDATE: Well readers it seems that the Dragon has decided to leave mylot. Champagne all around! lol Anyway, the Dragon posts a good bye discussion - too funny considering how against this kind of thing he/she was in the past, but regardless, post one he/she did. Now, the Dragon could have been the fine upstanding citizen he/she claims to be and just kept to the present and admitted that they found Role Playing online (ROFL) more interesting these days than mylot and therefore wouldn't be around the site much anymore. But NOOOOOOOO he/she had to stick the knife into yours truly one more time. And here are the quotes:
"dragonryder
1 day ago
With all that you've dealt with here, I can't believe you've never considered leaving. I considered starting over once, but I wasn't going to give a certain someone the satisfaction. I am definitely keeping the account open. Who knows, I might pop in once in awhile to comment to other people's discussions, but I doubt I'll ever start anymore. Yes I know where to find you, and I'm sorry I've been bad about staying in touch. I think it's the winter blues. I am glad we are friends too."
"dragonryder
11 hours ago
Oh that started last year in May. My reasons for leaving now are just being bored, and not wanting to do anything online that requires much thinking and/or emotion. I am more into my role playing game now. The person from before is not a member now, that I know of. She got banned. She has friends here though, but they don't worry me. Good luck with your time here, and thanks for being a friend."
These two comments were given to two separate people. So it seems that all along Dragon has been a role player and has now come out of the closet about it and mylot suffers another loss!
Rather makes you wonder doesn't it? LOL
But he/she says the account will stay open, so another bid for sympathy will be negated in the future with a return to mylot. And so it goes, and so it goes. This group has posted more good-bye discussions that anyone else and it just makes me ROFL to be sent another one. So the group gets whittled down a little more and that can only be good for mylot. Bye bye Dragon. Have fun in your new virtual life.
Friday, December 7, 2007
Cancer Cell Definitions
Below are some new words/definitions that Mensa students were asked to come up with. Every year they are issued the challenge of finding a word, removing, adding or changing ONE letter of it and then writing a new definition for their new word. These are some of them and I have chosen the ones from the list that could SOOOO easily apply to so many of the Internet Cancer Cells I write about. Have fun - and see if any apply to you! lol And read the words carefully so you see where the change was made.
Ignoranus: A person who's both stupid and an asshole.
Reintarnation: Coming back to life as a hillbilly.
Bozone (n.): The substance surrounding stupid people that stops bright ideas from penetrating. The bozone layer, unfortunately, shows little sign of breaking down in the near future.
Sarchasm: The gulf between the author of sarcastic wit and the person who doesn't get it.
Karmageddon: It's when everybody is sending off all these really bad vibes, and then the Earth explodes, and it's a serious bummer.
Glibido: All talk and no action.
Dopeler effect: The tendency of stupid ideas to seem smarter when they come at you rapidly.
Personally, I really like Bozone! lol SOOOO true, especially for Internet Cancer Cells.
Ignoranus: A person who's both stupid and an asshole.
Reintarnation: Coming back to life as a hillbilly.
Bozone (n.): The substance surrounding stupid people that stops bright ideas from penetrating. The bozone layer, unfortunately, shows little sign of breaking down in the near future.
Sarchasm: The gulf between the author of sarcastic wit and the person who doesn't get it.
Karmageddon: It's when everybody is sending off all these really bad vibes, and then the Earth explodes, and it's a serious bummer.
Glibido: All talk and no action.
Dopeler effect: The tendency of stupid ideas to seem smarter when they come at you rapidly.
Personally, I really like Bozone! lol SOOOO true, especially for Internet Cancer Cells.
Monday, December 3, 2007
Some 'Net Manners for Internet Cancer Cells
Ladies and Gentlemen - and I use those terms loosely as the people I am appealing to here, have already proven that they are NOT ladies and gentlemen, or there would be no need for this entry.
Anyone who spends any time on the net reading blogs, posting on sites etc., expects a certain amount of respect for their opinions and politeness in replies to their posts. In 'real life' they would not put up with rudeness, so why should they on the more impersonal net?
So I have come up with a concise list of 'Net Manners' that EVERYONE who posts should pay attention to and exercise. If more ladylike and gentlemenly behaviour was exercised, my entire blog wouldn't be necessary! lol I don't expect that people who exhibit hard core 'internet cancer' behaviour to change or even pay attention, but I do hope that those of you who have been on the receiving end of these people, will take a lesson from the following list and improve your own experience on the net.
1. Never assume! Anything.
No reading between the lines and assuming a meaning that isn't clearly stated. If you
question the meaning - ask politely for clarification. Remember that you can't possibly know
everything about the poster and to assume you know enough, is to make an 'ass(of) u (&) me'.
2. Never attack! Anyone.
If you disagree with the post - be polite about stating your opinion. If you already have a
negative 'relationship' with the poster - take your negativity elsewhere or post in a
reasonable manner.
3. Don't make it personal. Ever.
Making personal comments about a poster's habits, family or subjects NOT referenced in the
post is low, cruel, and mean minded. But more than that - it's just plain childish and makes
you look foolish.
4. Don't use foul language. Ever.
There is NEVER a need to make your point using crude and demeaning language. It reflects
worse on you than on the person you are attacking. It also only serves to defeat your
purpose.
5. If you must argue - stick to the rules of proper debating.
Be sure of your facts and don't 'spin' the other person's comments to fit your twisted view.
6. Always pretend that everything you say and type is going to be read by your mother!
Would you speak to your mother in this manner? No? Then show the same respect to others.
These are all pretty basic and there is very little original thought contained in them. And that's why they are so important. Because they are basic, easily recognized as viable, and therefore shouldn't be all that difficult to implement.
My comment box says, "If you disagree but must reply, be nice". I don't want to discourage people from posting. I simply demand that they show the same respect they demand for themselves. I hope you will too.
Anyone who spends any time on the net reading blogs, posting on sites etc., expects a certain amount of respect for their opinions and politeness in replies to their posts. In 'real life' they would not put up with rudeness, so why should they on the more impersonal net?
So I have come up with a concise list of 'Net Manners' that EVERYONE who posts should pay attention to and exercise. If more ladylike and gentlemenly behaviour was exercised, my entire blog wouldn't be necessary! lol I don't expect that people who exhibit hard core 'internet cancer' behaviour to change or even pay attention, but I do hope that those of you who have been on the receiving end of these people, will take a lesson from the following list and improve your own experience on the net.
1. Never assume! Anything.
No reading between the lines and assuming a meaning that isn't clearly stated. If you
question the meaning - ask politely for clarification. Remember that you can't possibly know
everything about the poster and to assume you know enough, is to make an 'ass(of) u (&) me'.
2. Never attack! Anyone.
If you disagree with the post - be polite about stating your opinion. If you already have a
negative 'relationship' with the poster - take your negativity elsewhere or post in a
reasonable manner.
3. Don't make it personal. Ever.
Making personal comments about a poster's habits, family or subjects NOT referenced in the
post is low, cruel, and mean minded. But more than that - it's just plain childish and makes
you look foolish.
4. Don't use foul language. Ever.
There is NEVER a need to make your point using crude and demeaning language. It reflects
worse on you than on the person you are attacking. It also only serves to defeat your
purpose.
5. If you must argue - stick to the rules of proper debating.
Be sure of your facts and don't 'spin' the other person's comments to fit your twisted view.
6. Always pretend that everything you say and type is going to be read by your mother!
Would you speak to your mother in this manner? No? Then show the same respect to others.
These are all pretty basic and there is very little original thought contained in them. And that's why they are so important. Because they are basic, easily recognized as viable, and therefore shouldn't be all that difficult to implement.
My comment box says, "If you disagree but must reply, be nice". I don't want to discourage people from posting. I simply demand that they show the same respect they demand for themselves. I hope you will too.
Monday, November 26, 2007
Personality Disorder - The Real Truth
Have you ever been accused of having a personality disorder? The flavour of the week right now is NPD or Narcissistic Personality Disorder. NPD is defined as follows:
''Narcissistic Personality Disorder - An individual with this disorder is in love with himself/herself, and has little positive regard for others other than in a superficial manner. They tend to be grandiose in how they present themselves, and tend to demand admiration from others.They believe they are special and deserve special treatment, regardless of the problems this creates for others. They readily take advantage of others, and tend to be quite arrogant. In actuality, they are very sensitive, and tend to not be able to tolerate any criticism or negative feedback. They usually seek treatment because they are frustrated in getting what they want. However, they often do not seek treatment, because they perceive everyone else as causing the problems, not themselves.'' - definition from http://www.webhealth.com/ as are the following facts.
Does it scare you to read that? That's because elements of evry Personality Disorder that has been classified to date, can be found in the personality of every person on the face of the earth.
This doesn't mean that everyone has a personality disorder. It simply means that we as individuals have our own style, our own personality based on the intensity or lack thereof of the elements that 'make us tick'. Our thought processes, our emotional needs, our socialization abilities, our cultural backgrounds and belief systems etc.
All accepted tests given by any institution for personality disorders equate layman recognized personality traits with 'medical' ones.
For Example: If you are ambitious and confident - you have an element of Narcissism
If you are expressive and emotional - you have an element of Histrionics
If you are alert and suspicious - you have an element of Paranoia
If you are affectionate and loyal - you have an element of Dependancy
The list goes on and on. But remember - everyone has elements of all of these (and other) disorders. What makes a personality tip over into an actual Personality Disorder, is the 'exaggeration' so to speak of one or more elements: the predominance of one or more symptons which become the totality of the personality. This leads to personal harm not only to the individual, but to their 'environment' and those within it. But even with some exaggerated elements, people who function within their society in a stable manner, can be accused of no more than being 'eccentric', 'individual in their style' or 'having the ability to think on a different plane'. They do NOT have a Personality Disorder.
The most recognized personality disorder is that of being Shizoid or schizophrenia. We've all seen in 'real' life and especially on TV those poor unfortunates who roam the streets talking to themselves and convinced that aliens are out to get them. This type of disorder is severe and life destroying without medication. Physcotherapy may, in conjunction with drugs, maintain this disorder, but it can't cure it. But on the rise, and becoming so obvious on the net is a Personality Disorder that until now, was hardly recognized and rarely diagnosed by anyone other than a trained physcotherapist. This is NPD.
We are all to a certain extent narcissistic. We have to be to maintain a healthy ego. We have to believe that our beliefs and convictions have merit. We have to believe that we ourselves have value and purpose. To have none of these beliefs would make us Anti-Social, a Personality Disorder of it's own.
Anyone who spends time on the net eventually comes up against the need to develop a highly tuned sense of paranoia as a weapon of self defence. We learn early, if we are paying attention, to distrust much of what we see and read and are offered on the net. To be overly alert or suspicious are the elements of paranoia. Does this mean we all become sufferers of the Personality Disorder of Paranoia? Of course not. It simply means that our rational thought processes are exemplifying these elements in order to protect our impulse reactions that may leave us open to harm. I would call that rather healthy!
It has become evident to me however that the elements of NPD are showing up in the personalities of many people on the net. I have been accused of it myself because I have the strength of my convictions, which comes into conflict with people whose only convictions seem to be, to harm. I have a healthy self-image, which I have earned after more years on this planet than any of my detractors. I have a strong sense of humour which I use shamelessly to keep from descending into the internet pit of 'transference of guilt' and pettiness of thought and expression. I have enough life experience to recognize an abuser, an idiot or a fool right off the bat. And heaven knows, the net is full of those. I also have, what many consider a bad habit, the nerve to call it as I see it. If I am wrong, I apologize. If I am right, I don't back down. And it is this last that gets me labelled by people as narcissistic. One quick peek at a webpage does NOT make a person an expert. Study and life experience do that.
So please, please people, be careful of the labels you attach, of the pits you fall into and of the lure of the net which can seep into your soul and create within YOU a personality disorder you otherwise would never have developed.
It is documented that people with NPD are incapable of rational thought and cognitive thinking. If this blog is all 'Greek' to you, then you need to learn to read. If it makes sense, then my ability for cognitive thought is proven and my level of narcissism is healthy and balanced.
You may learn something about yourself, as I did, if you take the time to take the online personality test at http://www.similarminds.com/. It's fun, easy but only valid if you are honest. My husband was sitting beside me when I took mine, so you can bet your bottom dollar I was honest! LOL My highest scores (and I had NONE over 50) was in the area of obsessive-compulsive because I was trained to keep my home and environment clean and orderly. And I readily admit that I am a little anal retentive in that regard. A cluttered home reflects a cluttered mind, my gran always said, and I have come to value that axiom. So again, I urge you to take the test and learn something about yourself that may make you a little less judgemental of other net users and a little more informed of just how complex we are as people and how our personalities don't have to be 'disordered' to be obviously different.
UPDATE: In case any readers missed it, there is a link in the comments that I am going to post
here: www.narcississupport.com. I urge everyone interested in this particular disorder to check this website out. It belongs to Kim and Steve Cooper and tells the story of their own battle with narcissism and how they overcame it, kept their marriage together and learned to laugh at themselves. It is full of courage, compassion, unconditional love and we in the 'world' must appreciate this, as these qualities seem to be on the wane in life. It will educate you about the realities of this disorder, offer support and advice on how to deal with it, and make some of you think twice before labelling anyone else as having this disorder when it's not warrented. Please, please click on this link. You will be very glad you did.
Kim and Steve - Kudos to you for your willingness to share your story in order to help others.
I am awed and humbled by your courage throughout and beyond the process you have gone through.
''Narcissistic Personality Disorder - An individual with this disorder is in love with himself/herself, and has little positive regard for others other than in a superficial manner. They tend to be grandiose in how they present themselves, and tend to demand admiration from others.They believe they are special and deserve special treatment, regardless of the problems this creates for others. They readily take advantage of others, and tend to be quite arrogant. In actuality, they are very sensitive, and tend to not be able to tolerate any criticism or negative feedback. They usually seek treatment because they are frustrated in getting what they want. However, they often do not seek treatment, because they perceive everyone else as causing the problems, not themselves.'' - definition from http://www.webhealth.com/ as are the following facts.
Does it scare you to read that? That's because elements of evry Personality Disorder that has been classified to date, can be found in the personality of every person on the face of the earth.
This doesn't mean that everyone has a personality disorder. It simply means that we as individuals have our own style, our own personality based on the intensity or lack thereof of the elements that 'make us tick'. Our thought processes, our emotional needs, our socialization abilities, our cultural backgrounds and belief systems etc.
All accepted tests given by any institution for personality disorders equate layman recognized personality traits with 'medical' ones.
For Example: If you are ambitious and confident - you have an element of Narcissism
If you are expressive and emotional - you have an element of Histrionics
If you are alert and suspicious - you have an element of Paranoia
If you are affectionate and loyal - you have an element of Dependancy
The list goes on and on. But remember - everyone has elements of all of these (and other) disorders. What makes a personality tip over into an actual Personality Disorder, is the 'exaggeration' so to speak of one or more elements: the predominance of one or more symptons which become the totality of the personality. This leads to personal harm not only to the individual, but to their 'environment' and those within it. But even with some exaggerated elements, people who function within their society in a stable manner, can be accused of no more than being 'eccentric', 'individual in their style' or 'having the ability to think on a different plane'. They do NOT have a Personality Disorder.
The most recognized personality disorder is that of being Shizoid or schizophrenia. We've all seen in 'real' life and especially on TV those poor unfortunates who roam the streets talking to themselves and convinced that aliens are out to get them. This type of disorder is severe and life destroying without medication. Physcotherapy may, in conjunction with drugs, maintain this disorder, but it can't cure it. But on the rise, and becoming so obvious on the net is a Personality Disorder that until now, was hardly recognized and rarely diagnosed by anyone other than a trained physcotherapist. This is NPD.
We are all to a certain extent narcissistic. We have to be to maintain a healthy ego. We have to believe that our beliefs and convictions have merit. We have to believe that we ourselves have value and purpose. To have none of these beliefs would make us Anti-Social, a Personality Disorder of it's own.
Anyone who spends time on the net eventually comes up against the need to develop a highly tuned sense of paranoia as a weapon of self defence. We learn early, if we are paying attention, to distrust much of what we see and read and are offered on the net. To be overly alert or suspicious are the elements of paranoia. Does this mean we all become sufferers of the Personality Disorder of Paranoia? Of course not. It simply means that our rational thought processes are exemplifying these elements in order to protect our impulse reactions that may leave us open to harm. I would call that rather healthy!
It has become evident to me however that the elements of NPD are showing up in the personalities of many people on the net. I have been accused of it myself because I have the strength of my convictions, which comes into conflict with people whose only convictions seem to be, to harm. I have a healthy self-image, which I have earned after more years on this planet than any of my detractors. I have a strong sense of humour which I use shamelessly to keep from descending into the internet pit of 'transference of guilt' and pettiness of thought and expression. I have enough life experience to recognize an abuser, an idiot or a fool right off the bat. And heaven knows, the net is full of those. I also have, what many consider a bad habit, the nerve to call it as I see it. If I am wrong, I apologize. If I am right, I don't back down. And it is this last that gets me labelled by people as narcissistic. One quick peek at a webpage does NOT make a person an expert. Study and life experience do that.
So please, please people, be careful of the labels you attach, of the pits you fall into and of the lure of the net which can seep into your soul and create within YOU a personality disorder you otherwise would never have developed.
It is documented that people with NPD are incapable of rational thought and cognitive thinking. If this blog is all 'Greek' to you, then you need to learn to read. If it makes sense, then my ability for cognitive thought is proven and my level of narcissism is healthy and balanced.
You may learn something about yourself, as I did, if you take the time to take the online personality test at http://www.similarminds.com/. It's fun, easy but only valid if you are honest. My husband was sitting beside me when I took mine, so you can bet your bottom dollar I was honest! LOL My highest scores (and I had NONE over 50) was in the area of obsessive-compulsive because I was trained to keep my home and environment clean and orderly. And I readily admit that I am a little anal retentive in that regard. A cluttered home reflects a cluttered mind, my gran always said, and I have come to value that axiom. So again, I urge you to take the test and learn something about yourself that may make you a little less judgemental of other net users and a little more informed of just how complex we are as people and how our personalities don't have to be 'disordered' to be obviously different.
UPDATE: In case any readers missed it, there is a link in the comments that I am going to post
here: www.narcississupport.com. I urge everyone interested in this particular disorder to check this website out. It belongs to Kim and Steve Cooper and tells the story of their own battle with narcissism and how they overcame it, kept their marriage together and learned to laugh at themselves. It is full of courage, compassion, unconditional love and we in the 'world' must appreciate this, as these qualities seem to be on the wane in life. It will educate you about the realities of this disorder, offer support and advice on how to deal with it, and make some of you think twice before labelling anyone else as having this disorder when it's not warrented. Please, please click on this link. You will be very glad you did.
Kim and Steve - Kudos to you for your willingness to share your story in order to help others.
I am awed and humbled by your courage throughout and beyond the process you have gone through.
Saturday, November 24, 2007
Cyber Crime Investigators
Not to sound like a 'victim' here, those of you who regularly surf this blog, or have been visiting it lately are aware of just how heated some comments on the previous blog became, the threats that were made and the accusations that were flung around. In the wake of all of this, and concurrent to it, I have also been receiving nasty emails - again.
I have stated before and I will state again, that I belong to some organizations that concern themselves with net safety, harrassment, abuse and other things. I have stated and will state again that I have a lawyer who specializes in internet abuses. Upon his advice, I am posting here a link to an organization that ALL of you (the COLLECTIVE you, not the individual you) may find of interest. I have used it myself, will use it again, and urge everyone to bookmark it. But be warned. This organization is not interested in petty squabbles such as have been going on here on this blog. They are interested in serious and ongoing situations having to do with stalking, harrassment and severe inappropriate use of internet contacts. The organization is called Net Trace Inc. They are Cyber Crime Investigators and can be found at www.nettraceinc.com. As I said, I urge everyone reading this, to bookmark this site. They also have a phone number posted on site and email capabilities.
The existence of this organization and many like it, is proof positive that the internet is and will probably always be used, barring strict government guidelines, to not only convey information, but as a conduit by people hiding behind their belief in 'non-detection' to exercise a sick kind of power over the 'virtually' defenseless. Where there is great good, there is also great evil. And modern society with it's 'throw it away and get a new one' attitude places such little value on much of what we enjoy in our lives today and that especially includes the trust, the feelings and the rights of others whose faces they cannot see, the circumstances of whose lives they can't possibly know everything about, and the TOTAL affect of the words they have written as they are read by their target.
Cyber crime classifications are really still in their infancy. Currently the only enforcible ones are mirrors of crimes that can, or have been, legislated and made punishable in "real" life. But this tide is changing with every day that passes. Millions and millions of people use the net every day and most of them for social networking. This is the category of people who are most vulnerable and in need of protection. Whether you are eight or eighty - it only takes only ONE network site to expose you to cyber criminals. It only takes only ONE person to take a dislike to you for the flimsiest of reasons to make you a target and your life a living hell. Because where there is one - there are many. Whether it be the friends of the one or your bad luck to 'attract' through no fault of your own, the many, the results are the same.
So again , I urge every reader here to bookmark the above site's homepage. You never know when it will come in handy, whether for yourself, a friend, a loved one, or even a stranger you keep seeing constantly subjected to abuse, harrassment, or any other kind cyber crime.
I have stated before and I will state again, that I belong to some organizations that concern themselves with net safety, harrassment, abuse and other things. I have stated and will state again that I have a lawyer who specializes in internet abuses. Upon his advice, I am posting here a link to an organization that ALL of you (the COLLECTIVE you, not the individual you) may find of interest. I have used it myself, will use it again, and urge everyone to bookmark it. But be warned. This organization is not interested in petty squabbles such as have been going on here on this blog. They are interested in serious and ongoing situations having to do with stalking, harrassment and severe inappropriate use of internet contacts. The organization is called Net Trace Inc. They are Cyber Crime Investigators and can be found at www.nettraceinc.com. As I said, I urge everyone reading this, to bookmark this site. They also have a phone number posted on site and email capabilities.
The existence of this organization and many like it, is proof positive that the internet is and will probably always be used, barring strict government guidelines, to not only convey information, but as a conduit by people hiding behind their belief in 'non-detection' to exercise a sick kind of power over the 'virtually' defenseless. Where there is great good, there is also great evil. And modern society with it's 'throw it away and get a new one' attitude places such little value on much of what we enjoy in our lives today and that especially includes the trust, the feelings and the rights of others whose faces they cannot see, the circumstances of whose lives they can't possibly know everything about, and the TOTAL affect of the words they have written as they are read by their target.
Cyber crime classifications are really still in their infancy. Currently the only enforcible ones are mirrors of crimes that can, or have been, legislated and made punishable in "real" life. But this tide is changing with every day that passes. Millions and millions of people use the net every day and most of them for social networking. This is the category of people who are most vulnerable and in need of protection. Whether you are eight or eighty - it only takes only ONE network site to expose you to cyber criminals. It only takes only ONE person to take a dislike to you for the flimsiest of reasons to make you a target and your life a living hell. Because where there is one - there are many. Whether it be the friends of the one or your bad luck to 'attract' through no fault of your own, the many, the results are the same.
So again , I urge every reader here to bookmark the above site's homepage. You never know when it will come in handy, whether for yourself, a friend, a loved one, or even a stranger you keep seeing constantly subjected to abuse, harrassment, or any other kind cyber crime.
Friday, November 23, 2007
The Cancer of Internet Intimidation
At the risk of being jumped on yet again by the commentors on my recent blogs who's user names start with the letter "Z.A.K.", I am writing this blog as I have just received an email from a friend of mine about a woman who heads up an organization on fighting the cyber cruelty of people whose greatest weapon is intimidation. Nancy's organization, of which she is the Director, is called "Centre For Safe and Responsible Internet Use". Recently during an interview she stated that "There is an epidemic of cruelty online because of the ease with which anybody can post anything." She talked about the perception that posters have, that they can say what they want, in any manner they want, because their real identities are (they think!) protected and therefore the authorities can't 'find' them. She stated that because the fear of detection is removed, the full understanding of the harm that such posters are doing becomes oblivious to them. She encouraged all users who have experienced cyber cruelty, intimidation and bullying to stand up and be counted, to refuse to give in, to report to agencies like hers the user names of such people and to be assured that there is recourse against these types of posters.
It was her explanation of the tactics used by such people that really caught my attention at this time, considering what I myself have been subjected to so recently.
Intimidation is an age old weapon of forcing the submission of others to bend to your will. It can be used in the form of shouting, verbal abuse, personal attacks, threats and physical violence. In the email were links to other articles which all had the same theme in common. To whit: People who make the choice to be cruel, to intimidate and to hurt others, usually exhibit poor language skills, lack of imagination in their arguments and can, more often than not, be found to be part of a group of like minded 'friends'. I found this particularly interesting. It seems the internet has become a breeding ground for 'packs of rabid human wolves'. Their main purpose when threatened by greater intellects, loftier ideals or what they perceive to be 'personal slights' , is to lash back, on the attack at the person that has come into their sights. They will circle and growl and hiss and nash their virtual teeth at them and then they will get virtually violent with words.
They have no concept of logic or reason or a point of view that differs from their own. Their acts/words of intimidation are cruel, often senseless and always unnecessary. The damage they do is considerable. People's sense of self, of safety, of the kindness of others and the finer aspects of human nature are destroyed and so the breeding continues as more and more users find themselves falling into the same mind set because they have been forced to defend themselves on a level they would not have sunk to otherwise. It's like a disease. It's a cancer.
It is evident in the responses on my own blogs here.
Perhaps I should not have written THIS blog entry at this time, as the ZAK's are attacking me as I type. But this email was too timely, too important and too true, not to share with those of you who will be reassured to know that you are not alone, that there are people who are making headway in exposing these cruelties and tracing and dealing with these anti-social types of users, and that if responsible and caring users stand their ground, they will succeed in taking the power from the intimidators by simply refusing to give in. I encourage everyone who cares about stopping the tide of such abuse and misuse of the opinions of others, to Google Nancy Willard and her organizationa and report, report, report.
It was her explanation of the tactics used by such people that really caught my attention at this time, considering what I myself have been subjected to so recently.
Intimidation is an age old weapon of forcing the submission of others to bend to your will. It can be used in the form of shouting, verbal abuse, personal attacks, threats and physical violence. In the email were links to other articles which all had the same theme in common. To whit: People who make the choice to be cruel, to intimidate and to hurt others, usually exhibit poor language skills, lack of imagination in their arguments and can, more often than not, be found to be part of a group of like minded 'friends'. I found this particularly interesting. It seems the internet has become a breeding ground for 'packs of rabid human wolves'. Their main purpose when threatened by greater intellects, loftier ideals or what they perceive to be 'personal slights' , is to lash back, on the attack at the person that has come into their sights. They will circle and growl and hiss and nash their virtual teeth at them and then they will get virtually violent with words.
They have no concept of logic or reason or a point of view that differs from their own. Their acts/words of intimidation are cruel, often senseless and always unnecessary. The damage they do is considerable. People's sense of self, of safety, of the kindness of others and the finer aspects of human nature are destroyed and so the breeding continues as more and more users find themselves falling into the same mind set because they have been forced to defend themselves on a level they would not have sunk to otherwise. It's like a disease. It's a cancer.
It is evident in the responses on my own blogs here.
Perhaps I should not have written THIS blog entry at this time, as the ZAK's are attacking me as I type. But this email was too timely, too important and too true, not to share with those of you who will be reassured to know that you are not alone, that there are people who are making headway in exposing these cruelties and tracing and dealing with these anti-social types of users, and that if responsible and caring users stand their ground, they will succeed in taking the power from the intimidators by simply refusing to give in. I encourage everyone who cares about stopping the tide of such abuse and misuse of the opinions of others, to Google Nancy Willard and her organizationa and report, report, report.
Wednesday, November 21, 2007
Response to MaxPower1971's Lies
First of all I want to apologize to a very nice man who lives in Berkshire, England and who's net user name is also MaxPower1971. This blog is not about you.
This blog is about MaxPower1971 of Mylot.com.
I said in earlier blogs that I would respond to any libelous comments made about me on mylot.
As predicted MaxPower has jumped on the bandwagon of lies, misrepresentations and a total non-understanding of what this blog is all about. Following is a discussion of his that he posted on mylot about me after he had been directed to my blog. He couldn't have properly read the entire blog or he wouldn't have said what he has said below.
Here is the discussion:
Internet cancer...The real story
MaxPower1971
Hi friends and readers. As some of you may know,I was gone for a few months due to personnal reasons. I come back to find a blog about me,calling me a cancer on the internet.So let me try to explain the mind of really weird and full of herself person. This particular woman,a BANNED user at Mylot for repeated threats of internet terrorism and her repeated violations of the guidelines here,makes fun of people's grammatical skills,and control of the english language.Mylot banned her,not me,not the MLPD(tho I like to think we had a part of it) She's the REAL cancer;She's a troll.She goes from forum to forum spreading her lies and misconceptions of life. I won't name her,but her followers are gonna know who she is. SHE'S THE REAL CANCER ON THE NET!!And I will be the cure.
End of discussion to date - I recently deleted other people's comments on this discussion to just Max's lies.
So AGAIN, I must set the record straight.
l. I NEVER in any of my blogs called Max a cancer. I called Riptide a cancer of hypocrisy. But I NEVER called Max a cancer. In fact - the only time he is mentioned in my blogs is when I named him along with others as people at Mylot to stay away from. It was their abusive BEHAVIOUR that I called a cancer. Subsequent blogs made it very clear that I was posting about abuse on the net, using cancer as an ALLEGORY - in any form, and my first blog made it clear that the abuse I knew best at that point was the type exercised on mylot by Max and friends in the mlpd. But large egos must make everything about THEM don't you know!
2. I NEVER made any threats of internet terrorism on mylot. In ONE discussion I told a user friend of mine who had commented on Max's foul mouth, that "perhaps I should have my 'hacker son' pay Max a cyber visit and teach him some internet manners". It was a joke between friends - and this friend knew that at the time my son was attending DeVry and learning how to 'hack' in order to write programs against it. It was and still is my son's nickname as he is a computer programmer. That doesn't make him a criminal hacker. But again I say, large egoes must make everything about THEM don't you know!
3. I NEVER repeatedly violated guidelines. I had two user names, I admit - therefore two accounts - the second one to keep Max and friends off my back after I retired the first one for awhile. I then retired the second one after Max disappeared from the site and returned as myself and was there happily until my banning which was brought about by a former friend who had lost her own fight to get reinstated at mylot.
4. Max says I made fun of people's grammatical skills and control of the English Language. To a certain extent he is right. I did comment on the ignorance of using foul language against innocent users. I did question his and his friends ability to read and comprehend. I still do, because neither he nor his friends seem to have yet mastered these basic skills as the above discussion illustrates.
5. He says that I go from forum to forum spreading lies and my misconception of life. WHAT?
What forums? What misconceptions? I have not and do not talk about mylot on any other site. I have commented on OTHER PEOPLE'S posts on other forums about mylot. I have written ONE article about it and I have my blog here. That's it. As for my misconceptions about life - so I take it, that it is wrong to want to see abuse in any form disappear? I take it that it is wrong to defend myself against identity theft, libel and petty small minded bullying? I take it that it is wrong to want to see the English Language return to it's former glory of form and expression when spoken or written by people educated in the English Language.
And Max has the nerve to call ME the cancer! He then goes on to say he is going to cure me.
Well bring it on boyo. Out write me. Out think me. Out 'logic' me. Cancer is an illness. The truth is not.
This blog is about MaxPower1971 of Mylot.com.
I said in earlier blogs that I would respond to any libelous comments made about me on mylot.
As predicted MaxPower has jumped on the bandwagon of lies, misrepresentations and a total non-understanding of what this blog is all about. Following is a discussion of his that he posted on mylot about me after he had been directed to my blog. He couldn't have properly read the entire blog or he wouldn't have said what he has said below.
Here is the discussion:
Internet cancer...The real story
MaxPower1971
Hi friends and readers. As some of you may know,I was gone for a few months due to personnal reasons. I come back to find a blog about me,calling me a cancer on the internet.So let me try to explain the mind of really weird and full of herself person. This particular woman,a BANNED user at Mylot for repeated threats of internet terrorism and her repeated violations of the guidelines here,makes fun of people's grammatical skills,and control of the english language.Mylot banned her,not me,not the MLPD(tho I like to think we had a part of it) She's the REAL cancer;She's a troll.She goes from forum to forum spreading her lies and misconceptions of life. I won't name her,but her followers are gonna know who she is. SHE'S THE REAL CANCER ON THE NET!!And I will be the cure.
End of discussion to date - I recently deleted other people's comments on this discussion to just Max's lies.
So AGAIN, I must set the record straight.
l. I NEVER in any of my blogs called Max a cancer. I called Riptide a cancer of hypocrisy. But I NEVER called Max a cancer. In fact - the only time he is mentioned in my blogs is when I named him along with others as people at Mylot to stay away from. It was their abusive BEHAVIOUR that I called a cancer. Subsequent blogs made it very clear that I was posting about abuse on the net, using cancer as an ALLEGORY - in any form, and my first blog made it clear that the abuse I knew best at that point was the type exercised on mylot by Max and friends in the mlpd. But large egos must make everything about THEM don't you know!
2. I NEVER made any threats of internet terrorism on mylot. In ONE discussion I told a user friend of mine who had commented on Max's foul mouth, that "perhaps I should have my 'hacker son' pay Max a cyber visit and teach him some internet manners". It was a joke between friends - and this friend knew that at the time my son was attending DeVry and learning how to 'hack' in order to write programs against it. It was and still is my son's nickname as he is a computer programmer. That doesn't make him a criminal hacker. But again I say, large egoes must make everything about THEM don't you know!
3. I NEVER repeatedly violated guidelines. I had two user names, I admit - therefore two accounts - the second one to keep Max and friends off my back after I retired the first one for awhile. I then retired the second one after Max disappeared from the site and returned as myself and was there happily until my banning which was brought about by a former friend who had lost her own fight to get reinstated at mylot.
4. Max says I made fun of people's grammatical skills and control of the English Language. To a certain extent he is right. I did comment on the ignorance of using foul language against innocent users. I did question his and his friends ability to read and comprehend. I still do, because neither he nor his friends seem to have yet mastered these basic skills as the above discussion illustrates.
5. He says that I go from forum to forum spreading lies and my misconception of life. WHAT?
What forums? What misconceptions? I have not and do not talk about mylot on any other site. I have commented on OTHER PEOPLE'S posts on other forums about mylot. I have written ONE article about it and I have my blog here. That's it. As for my misconceptions about life - so I take it, that it is wrong to want to see abuse in any form disappear? I take it that it is wrong to defend myself against identity theft, libel and petty small minded bullying? I take it that it is wrong to want to see the English Language return to it's former glory of form and expression when spoken or written by people educated in the English Language.
And Max has the nerve to call ME the cancer! He then goes on to say he is going to cure me.
Well bring it on boyo. Out write me. Out think me. Out 'logic' me. Cancer is an illness. The truth is not.
Tuesday, November 20, 2007
The Cancer of Anonymous Cyber Bullies
Whoa -- First let it be known that I have NO problem with people who post on the net anywhere, of retaining anonyminity. There are times and places where such a tactic is not only necessary, but prudent. HOWEVER. There is a plethora of people who surf the net, come across blogs, postings and other 'public domains' where under the cloak of anonyminity use their keyboard to ridicule, libel, and outright bully the person behind the blog or posting. Generally, these people have no prior history with their target. They simply exercise their ability (NOT A RIGHT, AN ABILITY) to behave in a manner that would make their mother's blush. It is tantamount to walking up to a stranger in public and running off at the mouth at them. Usually people who do this are considered crazy and given a wide berth by passers by. It is easier to do on the net, because their target has very little manouverability outside of deletion after they have read the nastiness posted against them. You can't just walk away - these bullies will return and return secure in their cowardice. They are another form of Internet Cancer and growing in numbers every day. They make the internet experience for a lot of people a sad and ugly thing. Often they are responsible for real harm and heartache and drive good people from good sites.
The only recourse that the targets of these small minded power trippers have is to either defeat them with reason and kindness or delete, delete, delete. To give in - to try to 'hide' - to lower oneself to their level gives them power. Like a bully in a school yard, the best way to handle these cancer cells is to stand your ground and refuse to back down. I know from experience that this can result in a nasty spillover into 'real life' at times, and though that is unfortunate, in the end it is the cyber bullies who will lose. They will lose because the more venom and ignorance they post, the more they prove their own lack of worth and they will never be taken seriously by people of character and integrity when they finally do come out from under their cloaks of anonyminity - except by like minded people of course. But people of intelligence understand that the grouping together of small minds does make a big mind or an open mind. It makes only a gathering of small minds without an original thought between them, either individually or collectively. It creates a 'pack like' mind set that feeds eventually on itself, that shows no personal growth, compassion or imagination. They are predicatable and therefore in the end powerless to continue to engender hurt, anger, humiliation or fear in their 'favorite' targets.
Like the poor, cyber bullies will always be with us. After all - in many cases, cancer is incurable. It has periods of remission, but it is always there, in the wings, waiting to strike again. But net savvy posters are 'on to' these cyber cancer cells and know how to protect themselves, on the net, off the net and within themselves. To them I say - More power to YOU!
The only recourse that the targets of these small minded power trippers have is to either defeat them with reason and kindness or delete, delete, delete. To give in - to try to 'hide' - to lower oneself to their level gives them power. Like a bully in a school yard, the best way to handle these cancer cells is to stand your ground and refuse to back down. I know from experience that this can result in a nasty spillover into 'real life' at times, and though that is unfortunate, in the end it is the cyber bullies who will lose. They will lose because the more venom and ignorance they post, the more they prove their own lack of worth and they will never be taken seriously by people of character and integrity when they finally do come out from under their cloaks of anonyminity - except by like minded people of course. But people of intelligence understand that the grouping together of small minds does make a big mind or an open mind. It makes only a gathering of small minds without an original thought between them, either individually or collectively. It creates a 'pack like' mind set that feeds eventually on itself, that shows no personal growth, compassion or imagination. They are predicatable and therefore in the end powerless to continue to engender hurt, anger, humiliation or fear in their 'favorite' targets.
Like the poor, cyber bullies will always be with us. After all - in many cases, cancer is incurable. It has periods of remission, but it is always there, in the wings, waiting to strike again. But net savvy posters are 'on to' these cyber cancer cells and know how to protect themselves, on the net, off the net and within themselves. To them I say - More power to YOU!
Note For Max
I deleted my previous blog Max - not because you scare me, but because you are abusive, foul and the epitomy of WHY this entire blog was begun, but I told you, you weren't welcome and you 'virtually slapped my mouth'. You threatened me and so I deleted you. Get used to it. I have copies of everything you wrote, and your threats - and everything that's in the hands of my lawyers is there to make sure that when you and your types comes after me, I am protected because I have done nothing illegal - it is not a threat against you. Again - learn to read!
Tuesday, July 17, 2007
The Cancer of Key Words
Every internet user knows the value of key words when doing a search. They save time and aggravation and provide instant links to other 'discussions' of the same or similar topics. We agree then, that the necessity for, and use of key words is an internet wonder that deserves the highest praise. What a concept!
What a concept indeed.
However. There is a downside to the use of key words. Users who spend much of their free time on the computer and employ the use of key words on a regular basis - or just simply recognize them from site to site for what they are (they are often highlighted), eventually fall prey to the cancer of them.
The use of key words is nothing more than 'pinpoint editing' of our own thought processes. Ideas, even whole streams of conciousness, are reduced to a few words, entered in a search bar, and VOILA - masses of information spring to your fingertips! Wowza!
Have you ever thought about the ramifications of this? Of thinking in terms of single words or a few definitive ones, to pinpoint the location or meaning of the information you seek or are reading? Have you ever wondered what 'training your brain' to pick just the right words means to your thought process in the long run? Probably not. After all, it's just a tool to save time, right?
Wrong.
It's become evident that the affects of using this tool is also a kind of cancer on the net that is
spreading beyond the the net, right into the way we think, read, and communicate.
Any teen ager with a cell phone quickly becomes a master at the use of key words in conversation through text messaging. Though texting is not searching, the premise is the same, only reversed. Key words are used to convey entire paragraphs of information within a few well chosed words - which themselves are reduced to single letters! Texting itself is a whole other cancer which is shortcircuiting the brains of upcoming generations and changing the language in ways too awful to contemplate here.
On the net, the use of key words, the recognition of them, has only added to the difficulty of gaining the true meaning of what a user posts on various forums. Despite our modern western society and our so called advanced educational systems, it is evident that many people whose first language is English, are basically illiterate. Compound that with the loss of nuance heard in the spoken word: the written word or grouping of words must be very very clear in order for the meaning to come across to a reader they way it was intended by the writer. Dry or sardonic humour for example, loses it's punch when the face and body language of the humourist cannot be seen. Not everyone can write well. And obviously, not everyone can read properly. This comes down, basically, to the brain's picking out of key words, and taking the meaning of the 'piece' written, from those.
We all know how damaging it is to 'take things out of context'. Yet, we do this all the time on the net without even realizing it. Our brain's have been trained to recognize and interpret the meaning of key words, and as a result, entire meanings of posts are lost or interpreted as something different. The result is 'good intentions' turned into something negative. Users are jumped on and vilified. On some forums, the more a user defends themself, the worse it gets.
This has led to a growing number of people holding the opinion that we should 'just let it go and move on'. Why? Unless the original post was obviously intended to harm, hurt or inflame, why shouldn't the record be set straight? SOMEONE has to keep this cancer from growing.
Think about it. Reading has become a short circuited activity. Out of context has become a normal way of interpretation. How utterly sad and discouraging that fewer and fewer people take the time anymore to read ALL the words written in order to obtain the true meaning intended in the writing.
With so many 'poor writers' on the net, whose only form of communication is WRITING, and therefore often being misinterpreted, is it any wonder that so many forums are unhappy places to be? On some forums, responses/topics, entire discussions are being deleted because of a few people's inability to read properly and interpret correctly. I realize that some of these deletions are also to be put at the feet of people who simply disagree with what has been said, no matter how they have read it. This is simply another layer of the key word cancer. Of any internet cancer for that matter. However, the point remains that internet use has retrained our brains to think, read and communicate in short circuited ways which give rise to misunderstanding and the inability to comprehend entire meanings - not just the bits and pieces that generate instant reactions within us.
It is the 'bits and pieces' that we respond to, and in so doing, we spread the cancer with our written reaction.
So is there a cure? Of course there is. LEARN TO READ, every word. Take the time to read it twice if you have to. Remain as neutral as possible and take the time to fully understand. And if you still don't 'get it', ASK before you jump on the writer, or at least remain civil in your response. And read more books and less online 'bits and pieces'! Start with Joseph Conrad - there's a writer who will teach you rather quickly, the meaning of every word written in relation to the entire message of the story!
What a concept indeed.
However. There is a downside to the use of key words. Users who spend much of their free time on the computer and employ the use of key words on a regular basis - or just simply recognize them from site to site for what they are (they are often highlighted), eventually fall prey to the cancer of them.
The use of key words is nothing more than 'pinpoint editing' of our own thought processes. Ideas, even whole streams of conciousness, are reduced to a few words, entered in a search bar, and VOILA - masses of information spring to your fingertips! Wowza!
Have you ever thought about the ramifications of this? Of thinking in terms of single words or a few definitive ones, to pinpoint the location or meaning of the information you seek or are reading? Have you ever wondered what 'training your brain' to pick just the right words means to your thought process in the long run? Probably not. After all, it's just a tool to save time, right?
Wrong.
It's become evident that the affects of using this tool is also a kind of cancer on the net that is
spreading beyond the the net, right into the way we think, read, and communicate.
Any teen ager with a cell phone quickly becomes a master at the use of key words in conversation through text messaging. Though texting is not searching, the premise is the same, only reversed. Key words are used to convey entire paragraphs of information within a few well chosed words - which themselves are reduced to single letters! Texting itself is a whole other cancer which is shortcircuiting the brains of upcoming generations and changing the language in ways too awful to contemplate here.
On the net, the use of key words, the recognition of them, has only added to the difficulty of gaining the true meaning of what a user posts on various forums. Despite our modern western society and our so called advanced educational systems, it is evident that many people whose first language is English, are basically illiterate. Compound that with the loss of nuance heard in the spoken word: the written word or grouping of words must be very very clear in order for the meaning to come across to a reader they way it was intended by the writer. Dry or sardonic humour for example, loses it's punch when the face and body language of the humourist cannot be seen. Not everyone can write well. And obviously, not everyone can read properly. This comes down, basically, to the brain's picking out of key words, and taking the meaning of the 'piece' written, from those.
We all know how damaging it is to 'take things out of context'. Yet, we do this all the time on the net without even realizing it. Our brain's have been trained to recognize and interpret the meaning of key words, and as a result, entire meanings of posts are lost or interpreted as something different. The result is 'good intentions' turned into something negative. Users are jumped on and vilified. On some forums, the more a user defends themself, the worse it gets.
This has led to a growing number of people holding the opinion that we should 'just let it go and move on'. Why? Unless the original post was obviously intended to harm, hurt or inflame, why shouldn't the record be set straight? SOMEONE has to keep this cancer from growing.
Think about it. Reading has become a short circuited activity. Out of context has become a normal way of interpretation. How utterly sad and discouraging that fewer and fewer people take the time anymore to read ALL the words written in order to obtain the true meaning intended in the writing.
With so many 'poor writers' on the net, whose only form of communication is WRITING, and therefore often being misinterpreted, is it any wonder that so many forums are unhappy places to be? On some forums, responses/topics, entire discussions are being deleted because of a few people's inability to read properly and interpret correctly. I realize that some of these deletions are also to be put at the feet of people who simply disagree with what has been said, no matter how they have read it. This is simply another layer of the key word cancer. Of any internet cancer for that matter. However, the point remains that internet use has retrained our brains to think, read and communicate in short circuited ways which give rise to misunderstanding and the inability to comprehend entire meanings - not just the bits and pieces that generate instant reactions within us.
It is the 'bits and pieces' that we respond to, and in so doing, we spread the cancer with our written reaction.
So is there a cure? Of course there is. LEARN TO READ, every word. Take the time to read it twice if you have to. Remain as neutral as possible and take the time to fully understand. And if you still don't 'get it', ASK before you jump on the writer, or at least remain civil in your response. And read more books and less online 'bits and pieces'! Start with Joseph Conrad - there's a writer who will teach you rather quickly, the meaning of every word written in relation to the entire message of the story!
Monday, July 16, 2007
And We Call Ourselves Civilized! ROFL
It has been on my mind for some time lately that the nature of evil is showing it's face more boldly than at any other time in history. And we call ourselves civilized!
People of religion would put that down to the coming apocolypse touted in every Bible ever published.
People of science/technology, would put that down to progress - of any kind.
People of reason would put that down to - well, that's the point really. There are so few people of reason left in this world.
Humanity from the moment they could stand upright, has woven it's societies, religions, values and belief systems around the concept of Good and Evil, Good vs. Evil, Love and Hate, Love vs. Hate. Out of this obsession with balance; to simply make sense of the world; mankind has evolved out of superstition and ignorance directly into information creating progress, creating more information, and further and further away from the basics of Humanity itself.
We call ourselves a civilized global society. How arrogant we are to do so. Civilization does not denote progress. Civilization is not reflected in knowledge gained and passed on. Civilization is not the inventing and having of 'modern' conveniences and material goods or the knowledge and technology of the 'ages'. But I defy anyone to totally agree with those statements. It would seem - well, at best, an uneducated opinion to hold, and at worst, just down right uncivilized to think in such a manner!
In our arrogance at being at the top of the food chain, we have lost the true meaning and interpretation of Civilization. We have forgotten what truly set us apart from every other living organism on earth. After all, the study of many animals proves the existence within various diverse groups (lions and tigers and bears, oh my!) the formation of social orders, pecking orders and acceptable and non-acceptable behaviours. We, as PEOPLE, have forgotten, lost, destroyed and re-invented, the wheels of our own humanity which put us at the head of that food chain. And no - it is not the ability to think, to reason, to problem solve. In animals we call that instinct. That does not change the intelligence of it. And it is the re-emmergence of our own basic instincts so prevelent in today's conducting of 'society', that rather tarnishes those golden towers of reason and progress we so stupidly believe we are living in.
Fear not! We do still possess those 'wheels of humanity' that set us apart from the rest of the animal kingdom - though frankly, they seem to be only self-serving shadows of their former selves.
Can you guess what those"wheels" are called? There are four of them. And one through four, they progress naturally to form the basis of what makes the human heart and mind deserving of being called civilized.
I am not going to tell you what they are. I want YOU to tell ME. I want YOU to examine yourself, your view of the world, your experiences within your world and tell me what you think they are. I'll give you a hint however. In the overall view of life and society as we know it today, these qualities are rare in their abundance and vary in degress from person to person.
Sadly, one only has to pay attention to their leaders, their family members, their neighbours and their connections here, there and everywhere to see what's truly lacking.
The 'wheels' of humanity which keep civilization rolling. What are yours? And once identified, how would you then define civilization? It's certainly not the Webster definition!
People of religion would put that down to the coming apocolypse touted in every Bible ever published.
People of science/technology, would put that down to progress - of any kind.
People of reason would put that down to - well, that's the point really. There are so few people of reason left in this world.
Humanity from the moment they could stand upright, has woven it's societies, religions, values and belief systems around the concept of Good and Evil, Good vs. Evil, Love and Hate, Love vs. Hate. Out of this obsession with balance; to simply make sense of the world; mankind has evolved out of superstition and ignorance directly into information creating progress, creating more information, and further and further away from the basics of Humanity itself.
We call ourselves a civilized global society. How arrogant we are to do so. Civilization does not denote progress. Civilization is not reflected in knowledge gained and passed on. Civilization is not the inventing and having of 'modern' conveniences and material goods or the knowledge and technology of the 'ages'. But I defy anyone to totally agree with those statements. It would seem - well, at best, an uneducated opinion to hold, and at worst, just down right uncivilized to think in such a manner!
In our arrogance at being at the top of the food chain, we have lost the true meaning and interpretation of Civilization. We have forgotten what truly set us apart from every other living organism on earth. After all, the study of many animals proves the existence within various diverse groups (lions and tigers and bears, oh my!) the formation of social orders, pecking orders and acceptable and non-acceptable behaviours. We, as PEOPLE, have forgotten, lost, destroyed and re-invented, the wheels of our own humanity which put us at the head of that food chain. And no - it is not the ability to think, to reason, to problem solve. In animals we call that instinct. That does not change the intelligence of it. And it is the re-emmergence of our own basic instincts so prevelent in today's conducting of 'society', that rather tarnishes those golden towers of reason and progress we so stupidly believe we are living in.
Fear not! We do still possess those 'wheels of humanity' that set us apart from the rest of the animal kingdom - though frankly, they seem to be only self-serving shadows of their former selves.
Can you guess what those"wheels" are called? There are four of them. And one through four, they progress naturally to form the basis of what makes the human heart and mind deserving of being called civilized.
I am not going to tell you what they are. I want YOU to tell ME. I want YOU to examine yourself, your view of the world, your experiences within your world and tell me what you think they are. I'll give you a hint however. In the overall view of life and society as we know it today, these qualities are rare in their abundance and vary in degress from person to person.
Sadly, one only has to pay attention to their leaders, their family members, their neighbours and their connections here, there and everywhere to see what's truly lacking.
The 'wheels' of humanity which keep civilization rolling. What are yours? And once identified, how would you then define civilization? It's certainly not the Webster definition!
Thursday, June 28, 2007
Something To Think About
A friend of mine sent me this, and though I am not American, I have great respect for Canada's neighbours to the south and wanted to share this with you. It made me want to stand up and salute you all.
We have enjoyed the redneck jokes for years. It's time to take a reflectivelook at the core beliefs of a culture that values home, family, country and God. If I had to stand before a dozen terrorists who threaten my life, I'dchoose a half dozen or so rednecks to back me up.Tire irons, squirrel guns and grit -- that's what rednecks are made of. Ihope I am one of those. If you feel the same, pass this on to your redneckfriends. Ya`ll know who ya are...You might be a redneck if. . .It never occurred to you to be offended by the phrase, "One nation, underGod. . " You've never protested about seeing the 10 Commandments posted in public places.You still say "Christmas" instead of "Winter Festival."You bow your head when someone prays.You stand and place your hand over your heart when they play the NationalAnthem.You treat Viet Nam vets with great respect, and always have.You've never burned an American flag.You know what you believe and you aren't! afraid to say so, no matter who is listening.You respect your elders and expect your kids to do the same.You'd give your last dollar to a friend.If you got this email from me it is because I believe that you, like me have just enough Red Neck in you to have the same beliefs as those talked about in this email.>> God Bless the USA.
Just a little something for you all to think about while I'm away. My hat is off to you all and may God keep those of you at home, and those of your loved ones overseas, safe. You will all be in my prayers.
We have enjoyed the redneck jokes for years. It's time to take a reflectivelook at the core beliefs of a culture that values home, family, country and God. If I had to stand before a dozen terrorists who threaten my life, I'dchoose a half dozen or so rednecks to back me up.Tire irons, squirrel guns and grit -- that's what rednecks are made of. Ihope I am one of those. If you feel the same, pass this on to your redneckfriends. Ya`ll know who ya are...You might be a redneck if. . .It never occurred to you to be offended by the phrase, "One nation, underGod. . " You've never protested about seeing the 10 Commandments posted in public places.You still say "Christmas" instead of "Winter Festival."You bow your head when someone prays.You stand and place your hand over your heart when they play the NationalAnthem.You treat Viet Nam vets with great respect, and always have.You've never burned an American flag.You know what you believe and you aren't! afraid to say so, no matter who is listening.You respect your elders and expect your kids to do the same.You'd give your last dollar to a friend.If you got this email from me it is because I believe that you, like me have just enough Red Neck in you to have the same beliefs as those talked about in this email.>> God Bless the USA.
Just a little something for you all to think about while I'm away. My hat is off to you all and may God keep those of you at home, and those of your loved ones overseas, safe. You will all be in my prayers.
Tuesday, June 26, 2007
"Now For Something Completely Different"
Hello Friends,
I am publishing this entry to wean you all away from the 'Darkside' entry as a place to play in the coming weeks while I am gone. It will be my last blog entry for awhile - as apparently I am 'on the run' lol and will only have intermittent internet hookup.
I will be checking in here from time to time to see how you all are doing and to leave some bon mots of my own to let YOU know how I'm doing.
So have fun ladies and gents and don't let the fire ants bite! lol Can someone tell me if we have fire ants in Canada? I've never seen any, but hey - I DON'T KNOW EVERYTHING! LOLOL...
Keep hugging each other!
I am publishing this entry to wean you all away from the 'Darkside' entry as a place to play in the coming weeks while I am gone. It will be my last blog entry for awhile - as apparently I am 'on the run' lol and will only have intermittent internet hookup.
I will be checking in here from time to time to see how you all are doing and to leave some bon mots of my own to let YOU know how I'm doing.
So have fun ladies and gents and don't let the fire ants bite! lol Can someone tell me if we have fire ants in Canada? I've never seen any, but hey - I DON'T KNOW EVERYTHING! LOLOL...
Keep hugging each other!
Saturday, June 23, 2007
For Members of the 'Dark Side"
As avid internet users yourselves, you understand the connections made on forums on the net. You should, you have enough of your own forums now! lol
The forum we crossed paths on, is, I repeat is, no longer of any interest to me. But I will be watching what is said and done on it as I don't trust any of you an inch.
Yes,I wanted the abusers gone and your nasty mylotbites shut down. I made no pretense about that and I had very good reasons, which, if any of you had an ounce of integrity, would realize the value of. You have done the same to others, why should I be different in my wanting the same thing. Yes I said I wanted you all wiped from the mylot database - you are all a negative presence on that site as more and more users are coming to realize that ON THEIR OWN without me having any influence over them.
The only reason you object so strongly to MY efforts, is because it was directed at you.
But to take private emails and turn them into a federal case is not only a useless operation, but smacks of "I'm taking my toys and going home!". After the mlpd went on strike, I accepted certain friendships and meant them. I realize now, how false they were on YOUR side. I stayed away from you all and concentrated on my own life and new friends on site. My material had been sent to admin and I was content to leave it in their hands. But YOU all just couldn't leave it alone and worked to get me banned with unprovable allegations used against me in a criminal manner. And you targeted my friends.
With the number of sites you now have to 'vent' and 'plot' on, it is ridiculous of you to say I am the one carrying on the 'fight'. I have this blog. That's it. If I see a posting elsewhere about this kind of behaviour on mylot, I comment. But I do not instigate it. YOU are the ones who can't let it go. I would give my eyeteeth to have you all out of my life for good.
So here's the deal. Grow up, get over it and just stop the vendetta YOU all are carrying on. Agree to disagree with me and put an end to it. Frankly I'm so sick and tired of the lot of you that I refuse to expend anymore energy. My life is about to take a drastic change and I don't need all this in my face everytime I open my laptop.
I want to be able to enjoy my internet experience and I'm sure you all do to. So stop poking this old dog and I'll stop replying or referring to you unless I am forced to defend myself. Don't put me in a defensive position and you'll never hear from me again. Can you do that? Or are the plans at least one of you have for me to far forward to call a halt? For your sakes, I hope not.
You want peace SK? I am prepared to give it you as long as you keep your friends in line.
You have my word, whether you put any stock in it or not - you won't know until you try.
SO: PEACE!
The forum we crossed paths on, is, I repeat is, no longer of any interest to me. But I will be watching what is said and done on it as I don't trust any of you an inch.
Yes,I wanted the abusers gone and your nasty mylotbites shut down. I made no pretense about that and I had very good reasons, which, if any of you had an ounce of integrity, would realize the value of. You have done the same to others, why should I be different in my wanting the same thing. Yes I said I wanted you all wiped from the mylot database - you are all a negative presence on that site as more and more users are coming to realize that ON THEIR OWN without me having any influence over them.
The only reason you object so strongly to MY efforts, is because it was directed at you.
But to take private emails and turn them into a federal case is not only a useless operation, but smacks of "I'm taking my toys and going home!". After the mlpd went on strike, I accepted certain friendships and meant them. I realize now, how false they were on YOUR side. I stayed away from you all and concentrated on my own life and new friends on site. My material had been sent to admin and I was content to leave it in their hands. But YOU all just couldn't leave it alone and worked to get me banned with unprovable allegations used against me in a criminal manner. And you targeted my friends.
With the number of sites you now have to 'vent' and 'plot' on, it is ridiculous of you to say I am the one carrying on the 'fight'. I have this blog. That's it. If I see a posting elsewhere about this kind of behaviour on mylot, I comment. But I do not instigate it. YOU are the ones who can't let it go. I would give my eyeteeth to have you all out of my life for good.
So here's the deal. Grow up, get over it and just stop the vendetta YOU all are carrying on. Agree to disagree with me and put an end to it. Frankly I'm so sick and tired of the lot of you that I refuse to expend anymore energy. My life is about to take a drastic change and I don't need all this in my face everytime I open my laptop.
I want to be able to enjoy my internet experience and I'm sure you all do to. So stop poking this old dog and I'll stop replying or referring to you unless I am forced to defend myself. Don't put me in a defensive position and you'll never hear from me again. Can you do that? Or are the plans at least one of you have for me to far forward to call a halt? For your sakes, I hope not.
You want peace SK? I am prepared to give it you as long as you keep your friends in line.
You have my word, whether you put any stock in it or not - you won't know until you try.
SO: PEACE!
Friday, June 22, 2007
My Identity Stolen and Now It's a Legal Matter
Reader,
The following email is just one of many that I have been receiving since my banning from mylot.com. I really don't care about the sick little games you want to play, but NOW it has gone over the line. One of the people in this email lives in the same town I do and it will not be long before 'word gets around' about this as you have used my REAL name - yes, believe it or not, in this small town I am the ONLY one with that name! People aren't stupid. They will put it together and though my husband and I are leaving here within days - MY CHILDREN ARE NOT! One young lady in this email is known to my son! My husband has lived in this town for over 20 years - this is going to damage his good reputation, because after all - people love to gossip! So now, you are not only guilty of the most anti-social behaviour - you have crossed the line into defamation and the police here have been brought up to date on the situation.
SO - I am going to give the person one chance and one chance only to do the right thing. Post the password used to sign me up to Match.com on this blog before Thursday of next week - June 28th/07 under anonymous, so that I can access this match.com account and delete my profile. This is now a crime - a legal one and frankly a moral one as you have opened the door to my CHILDREN having to defend me against the results of your behaviour. Below is the email to prove I am not the liar you have tried to make me out to be. My copy and paste only allowed the following to be posted ungarbled. And I'm glad of that as it hides the pictures and identities of the people included which I would not have allowed anyway. I say again that what you do and say about me is of no real consequence to me - but to have it spill over into the lives of my children and affect my husband's good reputation - it's time to STOP and get on with YOUR life. You wouldn't stand for this in yours - show that you truly do have a side that is NOT abusive and do the right thing here.
>---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------< "Match. com by Mail"
to me
show details
8:29 pm (2½ hours ago)
iamannmarie, here are your newest matches.
Need dating advice? Read Match.com's Happen Magazine.
Members We Selected for YouSee more results >>
<-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------->
You have until Thurs., next week to anonymously post on this blog, the password you used to sign me up to this site. This is not a joke. This is not a 'poke'. This is real, and this is serious, for you as well as me. I'm giving you an out, which is more than you would give me - so take advantage of the opportunity while you can. If you do, I will consider this matter closed and never refer to it again.
READERS: Update on above. This morning I received this in my email: June 23/07
<------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------->
Dear: iamannmarie
Thank you for contacting us about your Username and/or Password. We have located your information and included it below. Please save this email (in a well-hidden place) as your own friendly reminder should you forget again.
Username: iamannmarie
Password: cuntwhore
<-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------->
My only conclusion is that one of my own many emails asking for the password finally got through although I find the timing rather convenient! The account has now been cancelled.
I post this here because anyone who knows me - friends and enemies alike know that those two words are the ones I object to most strongly and I would NEVER use them in reference to myself or anyone else. These are the same words separate and together that were often left as tags on my discussions and those those of others.
So - to the person responsible, you are off the hook here. However, the words in the password have given you away - you are not off the hook for defamation should there be any further fallout from this that puts my children in a position to need to defend my honour and that of my husbands. So I would suggest you think very carefully before you do anything like this again or use these words to tag any further discussions on any other sites.
To my friends - God certainly has strange timing doesn't He? lol
The following email is just one of many that I have been receiving since my banning from mylot.com. I really don't care about the sick little games you want to play, but NOW it has gone over the line. One of the people in this email lives in the same town I do and it will not be long before 'word gets around' about this as you have used my REAL name - yes, believe it or not, in this small town I am the ONLY one with that name! People aren't stupid. They will put it together and though my husband and I are leaving here within days - MY CHILDREN ARE NOT! One young lady in this email is known to my son! My husband has lived in this town for over 20 years - this is going to damage his good reputation, because after all - people love to gossip! So now, you are not only guilty of the most anti-social behaviour - you have crossed the line into defamation and the police here have been brought up to date on the situation.
SO - I am going to give the person one chance and one chance only to do the right thing. Post the password used to sign me up to Match.com on this blog before Thursday of next week - June 28th/07 under anonymous, so that I can access this match.com account and delete my profile. This is now a crime - a legal one and frankly a moral one as you have opened the door to my CHILDREN having to defend me against the results of your behaviour. Below is the email to prove I am not the liar you have tried to make me out to be. My copy and paste only allowed the following to be posted ungarbled. And I'm glad of that as it hides the pictures and identities of the people included which I would not have allowed anyway. I say again that what you do and say about me is of no real consequence to me - but to have it spill over into the lives of my children and affect my husband's good reputation - it's time to STOP and get on with YOUR life. You wouldn't stand for this in yours - show that you truly do have a side that is NOT abusive and do the right thing here.
>---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------< "Match. com by Mail"
to me
show details
8:29 pm (2½ hours ago)
iamannmarie, here are your newest matches.
Need dating advice? Read Match.com's Happen Magazine.
Members We Selected for YouSee more results >>
<-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------->
You have until Thurs., next week to anonymously post on this blog, the password you used to sign me up to this site. This is not a joke. This is not a 'poke'. This is real, and this is serious, for you as well as me. I'm giving you an out, which is more than you would give me - so take advantage of the opportunity while you can. If you do, I will consider this matter closed and never refer to it again.
READERS: Update on above. This morning I received this in my email: June 23/07
<------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------->
Dear: iamannmarie
Thank you for contacting us about your Username and/or Password. We have located your information and included it below. Please save this email (in a well-hidden place) as your own friendly reminder should you forget again.
Username: iamannmarie
Password: cuntwhore
<-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------->
My only conclusion is that one of my own many emails asking for the password finally got through although I find the timing rather convenient! The account has now been cancelled.
I post this here because anyone who knows me - friends and enemies alike know that those two words are the ones I object to most strongly and I would NEVER use them in reference to myself or anyone else. These are the same words separate and together that were often left as tags on my discussions and those those of others.
So - to the person responsible, you are off the hook here. However, the words in the password have given you away - you are not off the hook for defamation should there be any further fallout from this that puts my children in a position to need to defend my honour and that of my husbands. So I would suggest you think very carefully before you do anything like this again or use these words to tag any further discussions on any other sites.
To my friends - God certainly has strange timing doesn't He? lol
Friends and Enemies LOL
My blog is titled, Internet Cancers and Other Topics. This is one of those OTHER Topics!
(gotcha! lol)
As most of you know, I am moving at the end of June out of the lovely province of Alberta,
to Saskatchewan. My life, however, this past year especially, has not been going smoothly.
I'm sure a lot of you can relate! lol
This morning I learned that the house we have an accepted offer on in Saskatchewan, does not
have a clear title and it could be months before the matter is cleared up. This means that as of
June 29th my husband and I are homeless - money in the bank from the house we've sold - but homeless! lol It is a good thing that we recently purchased a new 28' RV, so we will not be without a comfortable bed while we search for a new place to put it in. This means that I will
not have access to, or the same time on, the computer.
Doing the happy dance yet?lol
Here in Canada however, we ARE civilized and most campsites have internet hookup, so though
I won't have time to answer all my emails in a timely manner, I will be checking in on my blog
often and keeping you all up to date.
So for those of you who are my friends - stop by often to say hello and share your news.
For those of you who are not - but can't help yourselves - try and track me now! lol
(gotcha! lol)
As most of you know, I am moving at the end of June out of the lovely province of Alberta,
to Saskatchewan. My life, however, this past year especially, has not been going smoothly.
I'm sure a lot of you can relate! lol
This morning I learned that the house we have an accepted offer on in Saskatchewan, does not
have a clear title and it could be months before the matter is cleared up. This means that as of
June 29th my husband and I are homeless - money in the bank from the house we've sold - but homeless! lol It is a good thing that we recently purchased a new 28' RV, so we will not be without a comfortable bed while we search for a new place to put it in. This means that I will
not have access to, or the same time on, the computer.
Doing the happy dance yet?lol
Here in Canada however, we ARE civilized and most campsites have internet hookup, so though
I won't have time to answer all my emails in a timely manner, I will be checking in on my blog
often and keeping you all up to date.
So for those of you who are my friends - stop by often to say hello and share your news.
For those of you who are not - but can't help yourselves - try and track me now! lol
Wednesday, June 20, 2007
One More TIme WIth Feeling
Ok folks, here's the scoop AGAIN. I started this blog to expose abuse on the internet in whatever form I found it. I started with the kind of abuse I know the best - what happens on Mylot. Anyone who has been a member of that site for more than a month has seen it, been a victim of it or party to it. It's disgraceful and I make NO apologies for feeling the way I do about it or the things I have posted about it. Not a member reader? Check it out and see for yourself, especially threads by the people whose names are posted in my first blog entry. Then come back and tell me that I'm childish and full of it to feel the way I do.
Because the abuse on mylot continues unabated, and because some of that abuse is directed at me, of course I'm going to write about it - if only to counteract the lies, accusations, and insinuations being posted there. It's called - ready for it? - keeping the record straight, defending oneself, defending one's friends.
Ooops - sorry - that's not allowed, as people are told in various nasty ways over and over. It is ok for SOME people to demand their rights to freedom of speech, defense of their friends, defense of themselves - but make no mistake folks - if you are not 'one of them' - you DO NOT have the same rights. What a crazy world we live in eh?
Frankly I am sick to death of being told by people with the mind set, of what in my day, was called 'low life thinking', that I don't have any rights at all. And fyi - my gran defined low life thinking as people who found their personal power in the supression of others, be they right or wrong. Actually, it was my gran who first likened the kind of abuse that goes on in public forums as a kind of cancer. Mind you she was talking about the kind of public forums that were truly public - political debates, speeches, etc. Well gran - there is a new kind of public forum now but you're still on the money in your assessment!
It is the nature of man to judge, to assume, to speak before he/she thinks, to NEED to twist in order to be heard, accepted, be effective. Look around you - look at advertising!, look at the way some of your neighbours behave, look at the relationship you have with your mother-in-law! lol You get my drift? People use words to manipulate all the time - just ask the media!
It's a fact of life. Everyone want to be right, everyone wants to be accepted, everyone wants - no needs, to have a sense of personal power and control over their lives. It is the exercising of that control and power over others that is NOT acceptable or there would be no wars of ANY kind.
This need - this instinct to 'come out on top' is dangerous and it is incumbent upon all of us to practice restraint in our words, to remain civil and courteous when making a point that reflects a different point of view or opinion in answer to someone else. Sadly, humanity is losing the art of conversation and restraint means - what again? The result is conversation full of foul language, and insulting comments. Just because our tempers flare at something we read or hear, does it necessarly follow that we MUST respond with ugly words? Of course not. But people do - they go right off the deep end and reply without thinking. Later, some regret it and make amends. Too many today do not. And the trend to say whatever, whenever, damn the torpedos, continues to spread and grow - there's your cancer at work gran!
Hand in hand with what my Dad called "Niagara Mouth" is what is contained within the torrent of words. The insistence that the person has rights you MUST give them. Just because we live in a democracy where 'free speech' is such a buzz word because it appears on an old piece of paper somewhere, does NOT mean that free speech means it's ok to abuse, libel, falsely accuse or that it's socially acceptable. Everyone is entitled to their opinion and the freedom to express it. That is what free speech means. Nowhere in any 'old document' setting out that right does it say free speech includes foul languagge, libel, abuse, false accusations. The last I checked, there were laws against ALL of those things - even the use of foul language in some places! lol
So to those of you who stand behind the right to freedom of speech. Check the 'old documents'.
Nowhere does it say that that free speech includes the use of abusive language, libel, slander, false accusations etc. To indulge in this kind of speech speaks to the intelligent of 'low life thinking', it speaks to the vulnerable of hate and a lack of tolerance. It speaks to society in general of the cancer that is eating away at it's morals and values and becoming reflective more and more in the behaviour of people in general. It causes wars of all kinds, and that is not, and never will be socially acceptable.
So before you make demands for personal rights - before you 'bash' others for exercising their own personal rights - think about the cancer you don't need to be a part of, that is destroying everyone's right to freedom of speech, liberty and the pursuit of happiness. Open your minds and clear out the garbage that makes you jump on someone simply because you don't agree with them, using words intended only to inflame, to hurt, to demean. Don't assume that you know all about a person from the expression of a few words. Don't assume you know the whole story either. Stories are as complex as the people involved. So until you have ALL the facts, no one has the right to rush to judgement and inflict 'punishment'.
Voice your opinion all you want - but do it with class, with consideration and with logic. Help stamp out the cancer of self-serving demands for rights not afforded to others without ugly backlashes. In other words - CLEAN UP YOUR ACT. If you don't, you will never really find your way out of the company of like minded people and before you know it - 'low life thinking' becomes a habit of self-expression and your personal values and standards suffer in EVERY aspect of your life - not just on the net. Sheesh - whatever happened to simple kindness and understanding? Whatever happened to tolerance and faith and freedoms for all? -- Don't tell me! They got cancer!
Well here on the net people, you have an opportunity to reach literally thousands of people in one go. Is sending a message of abuse the message you really want to send? Is behaving like a schoolyard bully the image of yourself and your country that you really want the world to see?
You have the opportunity to show the finer side of human nature. To bring diverse cultures together in a spirit of understanding. You have the opportunity to change the world and you are wasting it. Some physical cancers are not curable. Internet cancers are. Why not "make your mark' curing the ones you can instead of spreading them? The choice is yours. Make it wisely.
NOTE: This post - are you listening - IS NOT ALL ABOUT MYLOT! The 'you' is collective and applies in a general/all embracing application for whomever reads this, not just mylot users.
Is that clear enough? So no more comments or discussions bashing me for STATING MY OPINION! Thank you.
Because the abuse on mylot continues unabated, and because some of that abuse is directed at me, of course I'm going to write about it - if only to counteract the lies, accusations, and insinuations being posted there. It's called - ready for it? - keeping the record straight, defending oneself, defending one's friends.
Ooops - sorry - that's not allowed, as people are told in various nasty ways over and over. It is ok for SOME people to demand their rights to freedom of speech, defense of their friends, defense of themselves - but make no mistake folks - if you are not 'one of them' - you DO NOT have the same rights. What a crazy world we live in eh?
Frankly I am sick to death of being told by people with the mind set, of what in my day, was called 'low life thinking', that I don't have any rights at all. And fyi - my gran defined low life thinking as people who found their personal power in the supression of others, be they right or wrong. Actually, it was my gran who first likened the kind of abuse that goes on in public forums as a kind of cancer. Mind you she was talking about the kind of public forums that were truly public - political debates, speeches, etc. Well gran - there is a new kind of public forum now but you're still on the money in your assessment!
It is the nature of man to judge, to assume, to speak before he/she thinks, to NEED to twist in order to be heard, accepted, be effective. Look around you - look at advertising!, look at the way some of your neighbours behave, look at the relationship you have with your mother-in-law! lol You get my drift? People use words to manipulate all the time - just ask the media!
It's a fact of life. Everyone want to be right, everyone wants to be accepted, everyone wants - no needs, to have a sense of personal power and control over their lives. It is the exercising of that control and power over others that is NOT acceptable or there would be no wars of ANY kind.
This need - this instinct to 'come out on top' is dangerous and it is incumbent upon all of us to practice restraint in our words, to remain civil and courteous when making a point that reflects a different point of view or opinion in answer to someone else. Sadly, humanity is losing the art of conversation and restraint means - what again? The result is conversation full of foul language, and insulting comments. Just because our tempers flare at something we read or hear, does it necessarly follow that we MUST respond with ugly words? Of course not. But people do - they go right off the deep end and reply without thinking. Later, some regret it and make amends. Too many today do not. And the trend to say whatever, whenever, damn the torpedos, continues to spread and grow - there's your cancer at work gran!
Hand in hand with what my Dad called "Niagara Mouth" is what is contained within the torrent of words. The insistence that the person has rights you MUST give them. Just because we live in a democracy where 'free speech' is such a buzz word because it appears on an old piece of paper somewhere, does NOT mean that free speech means it's ok to abuse, libel, falsely accuse or that it's socially acceptable. Everyone is entitled to their opinion and the freedom to express it. That is what free speech means. Nowhere in any 'old document' setting out that right does it say free speech includes foul languagge, libel, abuse, false accusations. The last I checked, there were laws against ALL of those things - even the use of foul language in some places! lol
So to those of you who stand behind the right to freedom of speech. Check the 'old documents'.
Nowhere does it say that that free speech includes the use of abusive language, libel, slander, false accusations etc. To indulge in this kind of speech speaks to the intelligent of 'low life thinking', it speaks to the vulnerable of hate and a lack of tolerance. It speaks to society in general of the cancer that is eating away at it's morals and values and becoming reflective more and more in the behaviour of people in general. It causes wars of all kinds, and that is not, and never will be socially acceptable.
So before you make demands for personal rights - before you 'bash' others for exercising their own personal rights - think about the cancer you don't need to be a part of, that is destroying everyone's right to freedom of speech, liberty and the pursuit of happiness. Open your minds and clear out the garbage that makes you jump on someone simply because you don't agree with them, using words intended only to inflame, to hurt, to demean. Don't assume that you know all about a person from the expression of a few words. Don't assume you know the whole story either. Stories are as complex as the people involved. So until you have ALL the facts, no one has the right to rush to judgement and inflict 'punishment'.
Voice your opinion all you want - but do it with class, with consideration and with logic. Help stamp out the cancer of self-serving demands for rights not afforded to others without ugly backlashes. In other words - CLEAN UP YOUR ACT. If you don't, you will never really find your way out of the company of like minded people and before you know it - 'low life thinking' becomes a habit of self-expression and your personal values and standards suffer in EVERY aspect of your life - not just on the net. Sheesh - whatever happened to simple kindness and understanding? Whatever happened to tolerance and faith and freedoms for all? -- Don't tell me! They got cancer!
Well here on the net people, you have an opportunity to reach literally thousands of people in one go. Is sending a message of abuse the message you really want to send? Is behaving like a schoolyard bully the image of yourself and your country that you really want the world to see?
You have the opportunity to show the finer side of human nature. To bring diverse cultures together in a spirit of understanding. You have the opportunity to change the world and you are wasting it. Some physical cancers are not curable. Internet cancers are. Why not "make your mark' curing the ones you can instead of spreading them? The choice is yours. Make it wisely.
NOTE: This post - are you listening - IS NOT ALL ABOUT MYLOT! The 'you' is collective and applies in a general/all embracing application for whomever reads this, not just mylot users.
Is that clear enough? So no more comments or discussions bashing me for STATING MY OPINION! Thank you.
Monday, June 18, 2007
The Cancer Has Gone South
This post is not one I wanted to write. But the necessity for it has been thrust upon me by yet another discussion, which not only contains totally false allegations, but also allegations about totally innocent users, whose only crime is to be my friend. I will address these allegations, point by point. And then on behalf of myself and my friends, I DEMAND an apology on this blog. If it is not given - then you, reader must decide for yourself who is the coward here.
The discussion begins with an allusion to a war of attrition. It goes on to talk about how the poster, back in November hunted cheaters on site and reported them. Then the poster talks about how he recruited others users to hunt cheaters. The poster is talking about the mlpd here. The poster then goes on to say that "some of those cheaters were overzealous and found themselves booted" (from the site? - that is not made clear). Other cheaters were "misunderstood and made some people unhappy." Well that is certainly an understatement. The mlpd members who 'made some people unhappy', did so because they were openly abusive to innocent members on threads where the mlpd had nothing but vitriol to contribute. I was one of the users at the time who openly challenged their abuse. The poster then goes on to say that the resistance to cheater hunting made it impossible to hunt cheaters any more. This is such a joke. Neither I nor anyone else had any kind of problem with people - whomever they were - hunting cheaters. What we had a problem with, was the verbal abuse and flaming that the mlpd were doing to innocent users. When one of the mlpd posted a comment like "...well if you kept your legs closed you c*nt, you wouldn't have so many kids...", of course I had something to say. Wouldn't you? This is open and ugly abuse and several members of the mlpd were very good at using this kind of language and making this kind of comment. I found it disgusting and said so. They hid behind their right to 'free speech'! Reporting this kind of abuse got comments deleted from threads, but did NOTHING to stop the abuse. It did nothing to have the most vile members of the mlpd banned by admin for guideline violations. And that's when I decided to approach the problem another way. Other friends on site at the time who had been on the receiving end of the mlpd members abuse, agreed that this abuse on site had to stop and began sending me pages from mylotbittes, a site I knew nothing about until I started getting pages of the mlpd members convos from it. I gathered them together and forwarded them to admin. Sadly - the only thing that changed was that mlpd went on strike and I left the site for awhile. The poster now says that I continued my war against them until I was banned. This is not true. After a month or so of being away I returned to the site and stayed away from the lot of them. The worst foul mouth had lost his ability to post and things had quieted down on site. The mylot wars were over and the material submitted to admin. For me - that was the end of it. Unbeknownst to me, however, a former friend had betrayed our relationship and now it was the members of the mlpd who were 'working behind the scenes' to get me banned. The poster says that my friends were so upset with me (?, names please!) about what I said about the mlpd that that is why 'they' were no longer my friends. Now that doesn't make sense. Unless these 'friends' were advocates of the kind of abuse that went on on site - why would they be upset with me for voicing my feelings about it? If they choose to betray me, how is that ME throwing THEM away? How funny that the only 'friends' this allegation can apply to is the friend and her husband who betrayed my friendship with them. So I really would like to know who all these friends were that I used and 'threw' away. Again I say - names please! I have never asked anyone to 'pay for my friendship' - I don't have to. People were coming to me and volunteering information. People were coming to me and asking questions. I never had to 'solicit' anyone! This allegation is so patently false it is ridiculous. The poster then goes on to bash my blog and tries to turn my reporting of the activities on mylot and mylotbites as things that I am responsible for. What a joke! And how stupid to make such an assertion when the very existence of the discussion in question puts the lie to it. I reported openly - not behind closed doors on some site - the abuses the poster and friends have been responsible for, and I'M the one doing it? The logic to this arguement defies - well - logic! The poster then goes on to say that I have accused him of cyber stalking, malicious emails etc. Read the blog people! I have accused him of NO SUCH thing. It is true that I have been getting malicious emails and phone calls. But I have not accused this poster either here or in private emails to friends of this. Quite the leap into accusation there. This poster thinks he's the focus of my fight against internet cancers. LOLOL...he is merely one little cell. The poster then goes on to say that I am poisening peoples minds on mylot and people are falling away from the site because of me. How arrogant of him to make such a statement. Does it not occur to him and his friends, that the topics they post and talk together on are leaving clues to anyone who can read, just how true my blog entries are and that if people are leaving the site it is because of the behaviour of this poster and his friends - not because of me. LOL - I would really like to know how I can have so much influence over so many people when I can't post on site and don't have the email addresses of every user there that is leaving. Yes, people read my blog - but do you really think they don't have the ability to see the evidence of my blog's assertions for themselves and therefore make up their own minds? I have pointed out a very real problem. I have made my feelings about it clear. But I do not have an "entourage" and am not conducting cult like activities. My goodness, if I could do that, I would have mesmerized the mlpd a long time ago and brought them over to MY side! lolol... The poster also says I left threatening messages on his shoutbox on site. NEWS FLASH - I dropped in and said hello, used some humour and of course, they all put a negative connotation of my bon mots and the accusations began to fly. Then on that shoutbox and another, someone else using my nickname began leaving comments. Today I got proof that those comments did not originate from my computer. The poster has since had those comments removed by admin. The poster then goes on to say that one user on the site is posting things at MY instruction! Now THAT really takes the cake of false allegations! A long time member of the site is now so mesmerized by my charisma (lol) that she is no longer capable of thinking for herself? LOLOLOL...falling off my couch again at THAT one! The poster then goes on to say that he and his friends are not guilty of anything and users only need to read their discussions and comments to see that! Really? Then why THIS discussion? Why post discussions about any of this at all? Why continue to 'poke the dog'? lol Why do the responses on discussion like this smack of meaness and more and more false allegations against Fifty and her friends? If you are so innocent then why are users questioning you? Why are users leaving? Surely one little me can't be that powerful!!!!!! The poster then goes on to promote his goodness by talking about his own website. I've checked that website - good premise, but doesn't prove a thing about his goodness on mylot! LOLOL....
The resulting comments posted by his friends on this discussion prove my point about their inability to recognize the truth and their meaness. My friends and I are called a VD because I have referred to their behaviour as a cancer on the net - not the ONLY one - just a kind that I find particularly nasty. I am accused of being obsessed, bitter and not having a life. I'm a writer and these people are now giving me such good copy that I can't NOT write about them. But at least I do it in the open. That they choose to get so twisted about the truth is their problem, and as long as they continue to abuse and lie, I have decided that I will continue to answer them point by point.
I am stating my opinion and rebutting their lies. The discussion I have just rebutted is black and white proof that THEY are the ones trying to poisen people's minds. For this poster to say he couldn't write a discussion this past weekend about ADD because he was consoling another one of my victims is the height of bullsh*t! Again - name please! How utterly foolish. I was willing to let all this nonsense go several times. Discussions like this make it impossible now that they are bringing innocents into the mix. My tag line for my blog says, "I am not a victim and I will not allow anyone who touches my life to be one either". This poster and friends are now trying to make 'victims' not only of my friends, but other innocent users on site. So I will continue to post about their abuses until they stop, or "take that short blue bus to banned camp" themselves!
The discussion begins with an allusion to a war of attrition. It goes on to talk about how the poster, back in November hunted cheaters on site and reported them. Then the poster talks about how he recruited others users to hunt cheaters. The poster is talking about the mlpd here. The poster then goes on to say that "some of those cheaters were overzealous and found themselves booted" (from the site? - that is not made clear). Other cheaters were "misunderstood and made some people unhappy." Well that is certainly an understatement. The mlpd members who 'made some people unhappy', did so because they were openly abusive to innocent members on threads where the mlpd had nothing but vitriol to contribute. I was one of the users at the time who openly challenged their abuse. The poster then goes on to say that the resistance to cheater hunting made it impossible to hunt cheaters any more. This is such a joke. Neither I nor anyone else had any kind of problem with people - whomever they were - hunting cheaters. What we had a problem with, was the verbal abuse and flaming that the mlpd were doing to innocent users. When one of the mlpd posted a comment like "...well if you kept your legs closed you c*nt, you wouldn't have so many kids...", of course I had something to say. Wouldn't you? This is open and ugly abuse and several members of the mlpd were very good at using this kind of language and making this kind of comment. I found it disgusting and said so. They hid behind their right to 'free speech'! Reporting this kind of abuse got comments deleted from threads, but did NOTHING to stop the abuse. It did nothing to have the most vile members of the mlpd banned by admin for guideline violations. And that's when I decided to approach the problem another way. Other friends on site at the time who had been on the receiving end of the mlpd members abuse, agreed that this abuse on site had to stop and began sending me pages from mylotbittes, a site I knew nothing about until I started getting pages of the mlpd members convos from it. I gathered them together and forwarded them to admin. Sadly - the only thing that changed was that mlpd went on strike and I left the site for awhile. The poster now says that I continued my war against them until I was banned. This is not true. After a month or so of being away I returned to the site and stayed away from the lot of them. The worst foul mouth had lost his ability to post and things had quieted down on site. The mylot wars were over and the material submitted to admin. For me - that was the end of it. Unbeknownst to me, however, a former friend had betrayed our relationship and now it was the members of the mlpd who were 'working behind the scenes' to get me banned. The poster says that my friends were so upset with me (?, names please!) about what I said about the mlpd that that is why 'they' were no longer my friends. Now that doesn't make sense. Unless these 'friends' were advocates of the kind of abuse that went on on site - why would they be upset with me for voicing my feelings about it? If they choose to betray me, how is that ME throwing THEM away? How funny that the only 'friends' this allegation can apply to is the friend and her husband who betrayed my friendship with them. So I really would like to know who all these friends were that I used and 'threw' away. Again I say - names please! I have never asked anyone to 'pay for my friendship' - I don't have to. People were coming to me and volunteering information. People were coming to me and asking questions. I never had to 'solicit' anyone! This allegation is so patently false it is ridiculous. The poster then goes on to bash my blog and tries to turn my reporting of the activities on mylot and mylotbites as things that I am responsible for. What a joke! And how stupid to make such an assertion when the very existence of the discussion in question puts the lie to it. I reported openly - not behind closed doors on some site - the abuses the poster and friends have been responsible for, and I'M the one doing it? The logic to this arguement defies - well - logic! The poster then goes on to say that I have accused him of cyber stalking, malicious emails etc. Read the blog people! I have accused him of NO SUCH thing. It is true that I have been getting malicious emails and phone calls. But I have not accused this poster either here or in private emails to friends of this. Quite the leap into accusation there. This poster thinks he's the focus of my fight against internet cancers. LOLOL...he is merely one little cell. The poster then goes on to say that I am poisening peoples minds on mylot and people are falling away from the site because of me. How arrogant of him to make such a statement. Does it not occur to him and his friends, that the topics they post and talk together on are leaving clues to anyone who can read, just how true my blog entries are and that if people are leaving the site it is because of the behaviour of this poster and his friends - not because of me. LOL - I would really like to know how I can have so much influence over so many people when I can't post on site and don't have the email addresses of every user there that is leaving. Yes, people read my blog - but do you really think they don't have the ability to see the evidence of my blog's assertions for themselves and therefore make up their own minds? I have pointed out a very real problem. I have made my feelings about it clear. But I do not have an "entourage" and am not conducting cult like activities. My goodness, if I could do that, I would have mesmerized the mlpd a long time ago and brought them over to MY side! lolol... The poster also says I left threatening messages on his shoutbox on site. NEWS FLASH - I dropped in and said hello, used some humour and of course, they all put a negative connotation of my bon mots and the accusations began to fly. Then on that shoutbox and another, someone else using my nickname began leaving comments. Today I got proof that those comments did not originate from my computer. The poster has since had those comments removed by admin. The poster then goes on to say that one user on the site is posting things at MY instruction! Now THAT really takes the cake of false allegations! A long time member of the site is now so mesmerized by my charisma (lol) that she is no longer capable of thinking for herself? LOLOLOL...falling off my couch again at THAT one! The poster then goes on to say that he and his friends are not guilty of anything and users only need to read their discussions and comments to see that! Really? Then why THIS discussion? Why post discussions about any of this at all? Why continue to 'poke the dog'? lol Why do the responses on discussion like this smack of meaness and more and more false allegations against Fifty and her friends? If you are so innocent then why are users questioning you? Why are users leaving? Surely one little me can't be that powerful!!!!!! The poster then goes on to promote his goodness by talking about his own website. I've checked that website - good premise, but doesn't prove a thing about his goodness on mylot! LOLOL....
The resulting comments posted by his friends on this discussion prove my point about their inability to recognize the truth and their meaness. My friends and I are called a VD because I have referred to their behaviour as a cancer on the net - not the ONLY one - just a kind that I find particularly nasty. I am accused of being obsessed, bitter and not having a life. I'm a writer and these people are now giving me such good copy that I can't NOT write about them. But at least I do it in the open. That they choose to get so twisted about the truth is their problem, and as long as they continue to abuse and lie, I have decided that I will continue to answer them point by point.
I am stating my opinion and rebutting their lies. The discussion I have just rebutted is black and white proof that THEY are the ones trying to poisen people's minds. For this poster to say he couldn't write a discussion this past weekend about ADD because he was consoling another one of my victims is the height of bullsh*t! Again - name please! How utterly foolish. I was willing to let all this nonsense go several times. Discussions like this make it impossible now that they are bringing innocents into the mix. My tag line for my blog says, "I am not a victim and I will not allow anyone who touches my life to be one either". This poster and friends are now trying to make 'victims' not only of my friends, but other innocent users on site. So I will continue to post about their abuses until they stop, or "take that short blue bus to banned camp" themselves!
Sunday, June 17, 2007
Mylot Cancer Spreading and I'm Fighting Back
I am sick and tired of Bird/Dragonryder blaming me for being responsible for HIS WIFE'S obsessive behaviour and everything that has come on the heels of it. You wanted proof from me of emails etc. that I have. Let's start first with a comment from Dragon left on a thread on mylot today. His wife has had so many accounts on mylot, that some users on site have become confused to who she is or will be next, so therefore the confusion over thinking she was HighReed - who by the way didn't show up on site until SK posted a thread crowing about my being banned on the day I WAS banned. When questioned by another user as to her even having an opinion about me on that thread being such a new user and all, HighReed's answer was "I have been on the outskirts of this situation for some time....." That is the same thread that Riptide posted my private emails on - out of context and OF COURSE never posted Dragon's wife's emails - there wouldn't have been enough room! lol
dragonryder (3023) 25 minutes ago
First off XXXXX, don't refer to me as Bird again. Only my friends get that priveledge. I never said YOU accused HighReed of being my wife. I said that she'd been accused of it once. I was trying to say I hoped you wouldn't be flinging those old accusations too. Talk about reading more into what is there! It doesn't matter who you think HighReed is, she has nothing to do with what happened to your friend. She does not deserve to be treated with the condescending attitude that you and others have displayed. What does your friend asking others to help her have to do with my wife ever having helped her? Aside from SteveW,unless she kept things from us in the beginning,we were the only ones she asked to help her for quite some time. When my wife was banned, your friend basically told her she was wrong for asking others to help her. What a hypocrite she is huh? She can ask God Himself and she will never get her old account back here. So she can feel free to ask all the "friends" she wants. I still stand by what I said before...when she needs you no more for her mission,she will toss you aside. That was really intelligent to post a discussion about her blog too. Wouldn't the shoutbox have been better since it can't be deleted? LOL No matter who reads that blog though, it will never change the facts. If your friend really has had all of the wrongdoings done to her that she claims, she would have taken legal action against a bunch of us by now. The fact remains that she can doctor emails she sends to you and anyone else all she wants, but for legal action, the emails would need to be seen in their original form in her email account by a lawyer and/or an officer of the law. Why the heck are you asking me what rule she broke to get banned?! LOL You said you have the emails,so you should know! Wait, she deleted all of that out of the emails though! LOL It was explained the day she was banned why she was banned! Multiple accounts and threats of hacking. Scenility much?
This is an email I got from Bird and my response when he was lying through his teeth (though I didn't know it at the time) asking me to give up the name of the person who was sending me info from mylotbites and my reply - which shows up first as it was sent on the back of the email Bird sent me. I have removed email addresses and real names BUT THAT IS ALL.
Reply Fifty to Bird show details Mar 23
I'm sorry Bird, but I can't do that. As a former journalist, I am approaching this as a professional and I have given my word that any information my source supplies will come directly to me for reasons of control and protection. I have kept you in the loop and will continue to do so, but things are, as you say, getting ugly again and my whole purpose is going to be defeated if it continues, as we are making ourselves look very very bad. I have more info that will arrive tomorrow morning and after I have vetted it, I will pass it on. Your stated issue with mylot is a lot more personal than mine. My goal is to improve the entire site by having these cretins removed, and to get mylotbites shut down. So I don't think we are totally on the same page here? Please enlighten me if I am wrong in this view. And please don't be angry that I can't do as you asked.I gave my word, I won't break it. My source is to important to me on a personal level and just tonight let me know that the mylotbites group is getting suspicious of a leak because too many things are being said on site hinting at them and their activities there.(Insert here - Bird's wife was getting loose in the mouth on site at this time) This is not good and has to stop or we are all just spinning our wheels. I for one, am going to be much more circumspect in what I say on site until my submission has been made. I hope you guys will too, if only to make sure that when we Do get in touch with admin, they will take us seriously. Let me know what you think. And again, my apologies for not being able to aceed to your request. When this is all over, and with permission, I will send you everything for your files. Fifty. - Hide quoted text -
On 3/23/07, Bird> wrote:
Fifty
If you could send me what ever information you have on the morons. I have had enough of their crap. I am sending an email to admin telling them I am tired of them coming into my discussions and starting trouble. I will inform them that no one threatened them or called them any names. Until after they abuse others. I will let them know that they have done this several times in the paste and I have the proof even though they deleted the discussions. So you know SKSOUTH took us off his friends list. I don't know why. Might of been something that was said. But to me their response in these discussions shows how ignorant they actually are. Also who is ever getting the info for you. I would appreciate it if they could send it to me also. I think when we go to do this it should be a group effort. One and all. Report them like they do everyone else. In Mass. If we can get enough people to do this then we can get them banned permantly.
Bird
From then on folks, I continued only to pass on to admin what was sent to me. And I repeat - at ADMIN'S request.
Later is was Bird's wife NOT ME, who burned up the internet emailing and emailing people, sending on to them pages from mylotbites etc., in an effort to get them to support her bid to get reinstated after her own banning.
So who's calling the kettle black here? Get off the pot Bird before you find yourself in the Fire!
I know I said that I wouldn't post about Mylot anymore - and actually this isn't about mylot - it's setting the record straight on one of the biggest liars and delusional people I have ever come across. Another cancer exposed because he stepped over the fence when I was willing to stay on my side of it.
dragonryder (3023) 25 minutes ago
First off XXXXX, don't refer to me as Bird again. Only my friends get that priveledge. I never said YOU accused HighReed of being my wife. I said that she'd been accused of it once. I was trying to say I hoped you wouldn't be flinging those old accusations too. Talk about reading more into what is there! It doesn't matter who you think HighReed is, she has nothing to do with what happened to your friend. She does not deserve to be treated with the condescending attitude that you and others have displayed. What does your friend asking others to help her have to do with my wife ever having helped her? Aside from SteveW,unless she kept things from us in the beginning,we were the only ones she asked to help her for quite some time. When my wife was banned, your friend basically told her she was wrong for asking others to help her. What a hypocrite she is huh? She can ask God Himself and she will never get her old account back here. So she can feel free to ask all the "friends" she wants. I still stand by what I said before...when she needs you no more for her mission,she will toss you aside. That was really intelligent to post a discussion about her blog too. Wouldn't the shoutbox have been better since it can't be deleted? LOL No matter who reads that blog though, it will never change the facts. If your friend really has had all of the wrongdoings done to her that she claims, she would have taken legal action against a bunch of us by now. The fact remains that she can doctor emails she sends to you and anyone else all she wants, but for legal action, the emails would need to be seen in their original form in her email account by a lawyer and/or an officer of the law. Why the heck are you asking me what rule she broke to get banned?! LOL You said you have the emails,so you should know! Wait, she deleted all of that out of the emails though! LOL It was explained the day she was banned why she was banned! Multiple accounts and threats of hacking. Scenility much?
This is an email I got from Bird and my response when he was lying through his teeth (though I didn't know it at the time) asking me to give up the name of the person who was sending me info from mylotbites and my reply - which shows up first as it was sent on the back of the email Bird sent me. I have removed email addresses and real names BUT THAT IS ALL.
Reply Fifty to Bird show details Mar 23
I'm sorry Bird, but I can't do that. As a former journalist, I am approaching this as a professional and I have given my word that any information my source supplies will come directly to me for reasons of control and protection. I have kept you in the loop and will continue to do so, but things are, as you say, getting ugly again and my whole purpose is going to be defeated if it continues, as we are making ourselves look very very bad. I have more info that will arrive tomorrow morning and after I have vetted it, I will pass it on. Your stated issue with mylot is a lot more personal than mine. My goal is to improve the entire site by having these cretins removed, and to get mylotbites shut down. So I don't think we are totally on the same page here? Please enlighten me if I am wrong in this view. And please don't be angry that I can't do as you asked.I gave my word, I won't break it. My source is to important to me on a personal level and just tonight let me know that the mylotbites group is getting suspicious of a leak because too many things are being said on site hinting at them and their activities there.(Insert here - Bird's wife was getting loose in the mouth on site at this time) This is not good and has to stop or we are all just spinning our wheels. I for one, am going to be much more circumspect in what I say on site until my submission has been made. I hope you guys will too, if only to make sure that when we Do get in touch with admin, they will take us seriously. Let me know what you think. And again, my apologies for not being able to aceed to your request. When this is all over, and with permission, I will send you everything for your files. Fifty. - Hide quoted text -
On 3/23/07, Bird> wrote:
Fifty
If you could send me what ever information you have on the morons. I have had enough of their crap. I am sending an email to admin telling them I am tired of them coming into my discussions and starting trouble. I will inform them that no one threatened them or called them any names. Until after they abuse others. I will let them know that they have done this several times in the paste and I have the proof even though they deleted the discussions. So you know SKSOUTH took us off his friends list. I don't know why. Might of been something that was said. But to me their response in these discussions shows how ignorant they actually are. Also who is ever getting the info for you. I would appreciate it if they could send it to me also. I think when we go to do this it should be a group effort. One and all. Report them like they do everyone else. In Mass. If we can get enough people to do this then we can get them banned permantly.
Bird
From then on folks, I continued only to pass on to admin what was sent to me. And I repeat - at ADMIN'S request.
Later is was Bird's wife NOT ME, who burned up the internet emailing and emailing people, sending on to them pages from mylotbites etc., in an effort to get them to support her bid to get reinstated after her own banning.
So who's calling the kettle black here? Get off the pot Bird before you find yourself in the Fire!
I know I said that I wouldn't post about Mylot anymore - and actually this isn't about mylot - it's setting the record straight on one of the biggest liars and delusional people I have ever come across. Another cancer exposed because he stepped over the fence when I was willing to stay on my side of it.
Friday, June 15, 2007
Why I Chose To Use The Word Cancer
It has been politely brought to my attention that my use of the word cancer is hateful and bitter.
As a survivor of cancer, it is a disease I am constantly aware of and wary of - no matter where it is found or in what form. Up until less than 10 years ago, the use of the word in any context was practically whispered, the fear of the disease was so great. In the past ten years, with the onset of reality television, truth in advertising, and the lack of restrictive censorship in television programming and news stories, cancer is now a buzz word. Communities everywhere are holding walkathons and other fund raisers, for breast cancer research especially, that make the news. The colour pink has become so popular you see it everywhere these days. And as a survivor, I can't help but have that word forever etched in the forefront of my mind. The nature of the disease is an allegory really for many things in life - especially on the net. Society today is so devoid of the enforcement of social standards, that all kinds of abuses that start with one tiny idea or comment grow and multiply and infect the psyche of more people in shorter periods of time, than at any other point in history. The internet has been the most effective facilitator of this because it deals with the 'written word'. If it appears in 'black and white' then it must be true!
People accept what they read anywhere on the net much more easily than they would if the exact same thing was being spoken to them face to face in real life. To me - that instant acceptance of the written word as the 'whole truth and nothing but the truth' is a kind of internet disease that can be likened to a cancer.
So I have used the analogy of the disease of cancer as my reference to the abuses I see and have/will report on, on the net. Internet abuse is growing, person by person, cell by cell. The very nature of the net allows it, promotes it, feeds it. Without censorship it will continue to grow, as more and more people become open to attack by simply becoming a presence on the net. That doesn't make it ok. Too many other things in today's society are being accepted simply because greater and greater numbers of people 'are doing it'. This has only led to the breakdown of the values and standards of our society. The forward momentum of new technology leaves no room for taking a break and thinking through all the permutations of any given change so quickly thrust upon us by that ever changing technology. We are in a constant race socially and economically to keep up to our modern age, that we have lost the ability to simply be 'ladies and gentlemen'. And that too, is a kind of cancer.
So, take it or leave it folks - there is no more evocative word that I can use, to capture attention for the points I want to illustrate, than the word cancer.
As a survivor of cancer, it is a disease I am constantly aware of and wary of - no matter where it is found or in what form. Up until less than 10 years ago, the use of the word in any context was practically whispered, the fear of the disease was so great. In the past ten years, with the onset of reality television, truth in advertising, and the lack of restrictive censorship in television programming and news stories, cancer is now a buzz word. Communities everywhere are holding walkathons and other fund raisers, for breast cancer research especially, that make the news. The colour pink has become so popular you see it everywhere these days. And as a survivor, I can't help but have that word forever etched in the forefront of my mind. The nature of the disease is an allegory really for many things in life - especially on the net. Society today is so devoid of the enforcement of social standards, that all kinds of abuses that start with one tiny idea or comment grow and multiply and infect the psyche of more people in shorter periods of time, than at any other point in history. The internet has been the most effective facilitator of this because it deals with the 'written word'. If it appears in 'black and white' then it must be true!
People accept what they read anywhere on the net much more easily than they would if the exact same thing was being spoken to them face to face in real life. To me - that instant acceptance of the written word as the 'whole truth and nothing but the truth' is a kind of internet disease that can be likened to a cancer.
So I have used the analogy of the disease of cancer as my reference to the abuses I see and have/will report on, on the net. Internet abuse is growing, person by person, cell by cell. The very nature of the net allows it, promotes it, feeds it. Without censorship it will continue to grow, as more and more people become open to attack by simply becoming a presence on the net. That doesn't make it ok. Too many other things in today's society are being accepted simply because greater and greater numbers of people 'are doing it'. This has only led to the breakdown of the values and standards of our society. The forward momentum of new technology leaves no room for taking a break and thinking through all the permutations of any given change so quickly thrust upon us by that ever changing technology. We are in a constant race socially and economically to keep up to our modern age, that we have lost the ability to simply be 'ladies and gentlemen'. And that too, is a kind of cancer.
So, take it or leave it folks - there is no more evocative word that I can use, to capture attention for the points I want to illustrate, than the word cancer.
Cancers Inherent In User Names
In surfing the net and checking in on various websties, I have noticed a phenomena that has served as a wonderful educational tool when contemplating which sites to explore further. I find the clues to the mind-sets of people in their user names. Now, some names are obvious - they are simply shortened versions of the users real name. Others are obviously fantasy related. Some are just plain cute and appealing. Some are literary or philisophical. Some just don't make any sense at all and can barely be pronounced. It is the ones that immediately conjure up a dark feeling or a dark emotion that give me the creeps. The use of words like, angry or devil, hate, or money, or synonims for those words immediately turn me off. If you are angry or want to convey the idea that you have a dark side and it's so important to you that you have to use it in your user name - then you are definitely not someone I want to exchange words with on a regualar basis. Enough of my nightmares send some days south as it is! lol The tides of my life don't need to be fed by the maximum power of people with mind-sets that allow no light of understanding or tolerance to shine through. I have been rarely disappointed in the belief that people with such negative user names, are truly cancer cells spreading and infecting all those who come into contact with them too often. If I find a site where the user names seem, for the most part, to include words that conjure up dark and nasty images, I surf on. Sadly though, people who find these kinds of user names 'appropriate, funny, cool' or whatever their excuse is, have in actuality, nothing of value to contribute. From the get go their 'vibe' is negative. For those of us who would rather interact with positive people and be on the receiving end of positive vibes - such negativity will find itself confined to places where others of like mind flourish. I mean after all - who wants to tangle with an angry cat or an angel of the devil, or a power tripper? Most people who find themselves on posting sites, message boards, etc., are looking for positive interaction, support and acceptance. It's very hard - unless you are truly a dark person yourself, to WANT to actively participate in discussions with people, who by their very user name would send small children screaming into the streets. There are times when we all find ourselves involved in such discussions anyway. But those of us who have imagination and life experience understand what really 'lies beneath' and learn to tread carefully around such discussions. Some of us throw caution to the wind and lean into the negativity when it is thrust in our faces, and fight back. Woe betide those that do however. "Evil grows in cracks and holes, and lives in people's minds" and has been the age old struggle since time immemorial. We will never stamp out evil completely. It grows exponentially, in various ways and forms, as our world becomes more open to attack. Should we lay down and take it? Should we ignore it and hope it will go away? Should we let them win by letting them continue to exercise their evilness? Of course not! That is the coward's way out. If you want to change the world - start in your own backyard folks. Learn to recognize where the darkness is. Light a candle of truth, beauty - whatever positive vibe you can send out there to shed some light on the darkness and help others see their way. Beware of user names that smack of the 'dark side' of people's natures and the cancer that lies within. Make your 'backyard' bloom with the light of love, peace and beauty. God Bless!
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